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writes: ok ..tell me if i should or if you would stay with a guy if you had these pro's and con's about him. thanks. some of these things i got over though like the feet thing and i'm getting over the age thing.pro's -he's ALWAYS there for me -he's the best thing to happen to me besides mixed feelings -I feel that spark most of the time when we touch or kiss -when i'm not with him ..sometimes i feel like i just need to be in his arms - he loves me for me - he will never cheat - or lie - he's good in bed ..hey everyone should have someone who is good lol n a good kisser - we never fight even though i want to --------------------------- con's - his feet - weird looks he does sometimes - too skinny - younger - some things he does like lil things - i'm not sure if i am crying now because i wanna be loved - yeah now i wanna be in his arms but maybe i just want to feel that love, ya know? - i keep thinking what if there is someone better for me out there - idk if i can picture my life with him ..i mean, i can picture myself having a wonderful life with him ..i'm just scared idk if i will ever truely love him. - the way he talks sometimes- i get mixed feelings about him but i think these are all the reasons why because he is amazing besides all this
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reader, pica +, writes (29 August 2006):
Okay, I'll be easy on you as it's got a bit harsh elsewhere ;) pros and cons is a method lots of people use (din't it figure in a Friends Rachel/Ross once??) Anyway .. you will never meet a perfect partner. I think that the press, magazines, films etc make out that there's Someone out there for each of us, someone perfect who is practically a mirror of ourselves. Women's magazines can be a bit harsh sometimes as if we should all dump the man we're with, hike alone round Greenland whilst setting up our own wifi business on the way ;) The main thing is, do you like being with him? Too much analysis can really kill fun and passion. Relax, enjoy yourself. Would you rather be without him at all??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): I think the PRO's outweight the superficial cons.
Ever thought to have some individual counseling to help you sort out your limitations/expectations in partners?
I think it is time to start a few sessions to address these...unrealistic and overdemanding ideas of a perfect partner.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): I am the one who posted this and
actually "buddy" someone told me to make a list of them. I didn't make it on my own. I have mixed feelings so they said i should sort out all the pro's and con's so before judging me and thinking i think i am perfect, Get your facts straght hunny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): honestly this is very inmature it's personal as well all the pro's and con's you've listed. we are not perfect it's pretty damn obvious.. being this picky i don't know how you will sustain a long term relationship so who cares if hes got con's we all do it's normal. no one is a relationship is 100% satisified ask those who have been married for years. it's all about accepting each other for who you are and improving each other cos you can never change a person.. if your scared of love then don't make it sound to him like your not scared of love. don't waste his time nor get him upset for something which you claim is right but really isn't really inmature stuff. you break it off and it will be very hard to regain trust within men again it's only about time before you look back at things relationship is team work both parties have to be there to support each other not to be picky we aren't perfect and you'll never find that perfect person you betta pull your weight champ for next time check to see if it's ok by him for you to write these sorts of pro's and con's they are very personal and i beat you if he had an opportunity to write the pro's and con's about you, there would be stuff filled out in both pro's and con's. so don't think your perfect cos we haven't heard your story buddy
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 Well I think the pro's outweigh the con's here. But the fact that you are judging him in this way is not really fair. You should be with a guy who you love completely, cons should not be an issue. We all have imperfections, but I dont think he would write up a list about you in this way.
There are pros and cons about my fiancee, well sort of. The only con is the fact that she lives far away and I cant be with her 100% of the time.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (28 August 2006):
 No one is perfect...and that includes you! If you are even weighing up the pros and cons in such a clinical way then I don't think this relationship is going to work out as there must be some deep-seated reservations on your side. Don't keep him dangling while you wait for someone else to come along though as that is not fair,especially as he sounds like a nice guy!
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 Finding such little things to list as con's really means your not attracted to him and no list of pro's will change that. For he might not cheat on you but if the attraction is not there for you, then you will do the straying.
You might want to look into some type of counselling to find out why a guy with so many pro's is not attractive to you.
Let this guy go, he needs to have a woman that looks at him and can't list any con's.
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reader, bonym +, writes (28 August 2006):
 The list of cons you have there worry me, his feet, he is too skinny, there may be someone better out there,the way he talks, no one is perfect. Surely his feet and the way he talks are not life threatening issues. Everyone perhaps feels there is someone better out there, but if we never got with someone based on that assumption, we would neverdate anyone! In my opinion, this guy sounds like a reliable choice for you as he wont cheat, he is always there, he is good in bed, I mean I personally dont think you even fancy him if you have made a dig at his weight and feet and the way he talks. I cant sit here and tell you to go out with him or not go out with him based on the vague list of pros and cons but you have to do what makes you feel happy. xXx
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