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writes: Ok So I have been seeing this guy for a month and a few weeks, I met him down the shore and he is a fun and outgoing person like myself. He has taken me on a few dates and now I been staying over his house… we recently had sex after the month of course which make’s it more important to me 3…When we are together we have an amazing time so much fun and he shows that he like’s me a lot!!! I got hurt before him so I have a hard time trusting but am trying to fix that I know all men aren’t the same I HOPE LOL… Here is the issue he has Communication problems when we are not together example takes to long to answer my text message sometimes even 5 hrs … and when I call him he takes forever or doesn’t call me for a few hours later!!! I know people get busy but there’s always time!!!… I hate waiting for a man and I do get very anxious because I truly like this guy… he gives me all sorts of excuses he’s a COP who work’s crazy hours and spends a lot of his time in the gym… I always thought that if a guy is truly interested he would take the time to be there somehow for that person…When he does texts me he lets me know how much he misses me and when he’s not working he does give me his time its Just the PHONE situation!!! I spoke to him about the situation and he says he’s not the type of person who like’s the phone and doesn’t always have it with him… He said he would try his best to be better I mean he has improved but still sometimes takes 5 hrs ughhh what should I do!?!?! BTW he is going away with his friends and say’s will call me everyday while he’s out there but doubting that!!! I don’t like being a nagger… and I don’t want to be the one always calling so!!! IS HE NOT INTERESTED!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): I agree with everyone here, you are acting like a clingy, needy, Little Girl, and further, has he actually asked you to be his Girlfriend, or are you just assuming that you are the only woman he is seeing?
Because if he hasn't asked you, he is going to HATE you texting him all the time, calling and checking up on him and demanding that he call you x number of times. If you are his girlfriend he still is going to get tired of that crap. Men like women who do not base their self worth on the attention of a man, who do not depend on him to make them happy (too much pressure) and have a lot going on in their own lives so that they are busy with doing the things they need to do for themselves.
Stop chasing or he is going to go bye bye. Let him call you all of the time for the first several months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha thanks for responses...see I'm trying to learn this being single thing since I was in a relationship for 6 yrs.. Since I was 16 yrs old and now I’m 24yrs old and my friends also find it weird the phone thing so hmm idk...I and have been single 7 months and met so many asswholes lol!!! And maybe he is different so I will let things go with the flow ; ) Thanks all for the input!!!
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reader, beachbabe  +, writes (18 August 2009):
 I think yo had sex with him too quick. You should of made him work more to win your prize. So, he basically already got what he wanted so you have to keep him interested. Also guys hate naggers. Don't call him 24/7 let him call you.. make him miss you. When you call a guy all the time they loose interest in the girl and knwo they can have her whenever he want her. you need to relax, and take control ;)
good luck girl!
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Sorry are you seriously between 22 and 25 or are you actually 12.
You need to mature a bit it sound like after a month you cant survive without this guy, it takes him 5 hours to reply , well big deal at least he does reply.
From what you have said this guy ikes you.
If you dont start learning to trust him and men in general then your going to be on your own. You need to find something to occupy your time and not over analyse absolutely everything. If you back off a wee bit I gurantee he will be more responsive.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 August 2009):
 I think if this is so important to you that you need to look elsewhere.
Personally I find it a little *clingy* when a guy/girl HAVE to get X number of texts in order to feel loved.
Some people are just not BIG on living on their cell phone ( I am one of those) I use mine for the schools to contact me when I'm out of about ( concerning m kids) and if there is an emergency with any of my friends. I don't text anyone. EVER. If I want to talk to someone I call them. If they have the time they answer or call me back. I NEVER talk in stores or while walking/driving. Maybe your guy is more like that? To be honest I would totally loose respect for a police officer if he was MORE busy being on his cell phone with his GF then doing his job.
If he asks you out on dates he is interested. If you want MORE then talking about it and finding a common way for the two of you to talk.
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reader, kehurch +, writes (18 August 2009):
Hey girl. CALMMMMMM DOWNNNNN. He is interested. You guys have been together for a few months. SO, your relationship is still SPICY! (: My advice for you is to stop on the calling. MAKE him call YOU. GUYS HATE IT when girls nag them. When me and my guy started going out he straight out told me he hated talking on the phone. And if you nag him so much he'll start thinking you are clinging. He'll get scared and might say bye-bye girlfriend. My BEST advice is to go find a job or get some friends and stop getting on his back about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): A cop, so he is a police officer. My advice is there are books in the library written by for e.g an ex cop who also worked undercover and retired and went overseas, Graeme Bell, his autobiography of police work. I think he is very busy with a lot on his mind, and Graeme Bells Autobiography tells this. He may be stressed and putting himself in a good frame of mind before contactingy you. He probably has a lot to think about. If he wasn't interested in you, he would arrange a meeting and tell you. I believe he is interested.
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