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*issyLouu
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 months now and when I got with him I thought I really liked him. He allways liked me before we got together anyways, and hes such a nice guy who has allot of respect and allot of asperations in life. So I thought I would fall madly in love with him. I did really like him for the first 2 month that we were going out, then about a month ago he tells me he loves me for the first time. And since then hes allways saying it like all of the time, he just keeps syaing im falling madly in love with you, and I love you so much. But I dont feel the same way, and I really dont want to break his heart by telling him. I think he thinks were going to stay togeher forever, but I really dont think that is going to happen. Me I want to go abroad, live my life, have fun and flirt. And I think he wants to settle down really early. OMG what do I do???? (Sorry I know its long but I really need help) Thankyou Xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I think rather than making any desisions and breaking up with him straight away, you need to tell him your dreams and what you wish to do with your life and then leave the ball in his court on whether or not he will support you and let you go. If he says that he's not going to support you then I'm afraid that the only other option would to be break up with him. I wouldn't put my plans on hold for a guy, no matter how much he says he loves you. Yes it will hurt him at first, he is only human after all, but then he will pick himself up and move on. By not telling him, you are leading him along everyday, which will only get worse if you don't nip it in the bud as soon as possible. Well done for dreaming, and no matter what happens, always look after number one. At the end of the day you're the only person who has to live with yourself so you may as well make yourself happy. You're young. Enjoy life! Write back if you need anymore help xxxxxx
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 break up with him, just tell him you had fun but your relationship can't work since you want different things, it may break his heart, but in truth, people do get over broken hearts.
good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 November 2009):
You have to end it now I'm afraid, and it will break his heart. If he really does love you and you don't feel the same, and want to live, then you need to let him go now so he can find someone else. Be gentle, but firm to make sure he knows it's over for sure. He will be heatbroken, but with enough time he will heal.
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