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writes:well my husband left for 3 weeks to help with some volunteer red cross work in japan. hes coming home in about week and id like to surprise him by doing something sexy and fun. i also wanna try and use this night as a way to tell him im ready for new things. questions( ik i have a whole list of them):1. is there anything a little simpler, or a website i should try, most of them dont seem to give enough detail. 2. is there anything special i should do, any positions, sexy little tricks, or any suggestions for a sexy outfit, (he loves the color green). 3. is there something i should plan to do, ive already planed to get some sushi from his favorite restaurant(its where we met:P), but other than that i really dont have much planed. im open to just about anything.thanks so much guysAdditional info from the poster:background:we typically have sex in the missionary position, i dont really find it boring(i just started having sex), but i can tell he gets bored sometimes(we have gone 2 weeks without having sex, and we have only be married for a little less than 3 months). we change it up a little bit but not much.i looked up a few positions this on cosmo but they look a bit strange. (do really men really like that finger up the butt thing, just seems a bit strange to me). ive tried this one(http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/the-ride-of-your-life-sex-position)with him a couple of times but i never really get the swing of things and its kinda awkward when i stare at him confused(he laughs it off but its really embarrassing for me. i dont want him to get bored with how we are now. he was my first so im not really confident with sex. i just feel like im always doing something wrong. does anyone know how i can correct this, id love to have the kind of sex life his friend always talk about have with their wives and girlfriendsquestion: how can i obtain that, what positions should i try, what tricks are there to keep him coming back. what am i doing wrong? and how can i get better at being on top, he seems to like it, but i dont know how?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 May 2011):
 don't go OUT to dinner
have it sent in... eat at home... more intimate
a cute green nightie or shortie baby doll might intrigue him.
do you give him blow jobs? most men love them...
as for new positions... doggy style is good... or
you on your back legs up over his shoulders, him kneeling between your legs
i also like spoons on your side with him coming in from behind...
or dovetail or scissors... (on your sides facing each other at an angle legs stacked alternately... think of an open pair of scissors... (great position for when you are pregnant too)
so if it was me... I'll assume you are picking him up at that airport or something...
get all dolled up to get him... meet him at the gate...
have the table set at home... wine, candles... all fancy
get home... tell him you are slipping into something more comfortable... go change into your lingerie... (which btw if it was winter i'd wear under my coat to get him at the airport....)
then have dinner... then seat him on the couch... and start kissing him.. neck... chest... down to his belly (by this time you should be kneeling between his legs... then undo his pants and start a blow job.... and let it go from there...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): When I go on business trips I love it when my wife sends me naughty pictures of herself. Sometimes they might be her in some loungerie she bought that I will get to take off when I get home, sheer panties, boob flashes, even once a short clip of her masturbating. I love getting them; sometimes she sends one a day, and I find myself really looking forward to them. It makes it easy to stay fully focused on her, despite all the lonely business women I come in contact with. Finally, I love it when she adds a caption to the pic telling me of some nasty thing she thought of while masturbating. The naughtier the better, and it doesn't really even matter if it was something that she might not really do if it came down to it. Just the idea that she thought of something that nasty in her sweet little head is enuf to send me off - especially when combined with a racy pic :). Of course this does not take the place of the "I love you" and "I miss u" texts. I love to get those just as much and just as often, or more often. Remember above all: sex should be fun and exciting, not self-conscious. He will appreciate the effort on your part, regardless of whether the results don't work out in the end to be the most erotic night of your lives. Silly mistakes are OK. Having the guts, the love, and the trust to take risks is more important
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reader, lysha  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 your husband will appreciate anything you do for him:)
my fiance is going into the army and weve allready planned this out,:')
as for an outfit, his favourite colour is green right? so get a green corset or a silk green dressing gown, something easy for him to undo and then tell him to text you or something when he is nearly home, so you can open the door to him and start passionately kissing him, (just make sure its him at the door haha!)
get some flavoured body cream for the two of you to use to make it more fun,
most men like the positions doggy &girl on top, or sometimes anything aqward because it makes it tigher on them which means more pleasure:)
whisper things in his ear &ask him if theres anything he wants to do, tell him you dont mind whatever his decision and go from there:)
get some rose petals and place them on the bed:)
the sushi can be his treat for after:)
hope this has helped, im also a beginner, but dont worry your husband will love you and enjoy whatever you do:)
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