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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i have a serious problem that i so desperately need help with .... I have been with this guy for 9 months now and at the time we were just seeing each other i was still talking and see my ex boyfriend and well i was very confused on what to do cause i had been with my ex boyfriend for 6 years and i was comfortable and then i met this guy that is sweet and makes me laugh and feel welcome and treats me like a queen. Now i am scared to leave my comfort zone to try something different, so this guy finds out and starts saying i am cheating on him and breaks up with me and so i go back to ex. Well at this point he calls and wants me back and says sorry , so i leave my ex and go try something different and new with this great guy and he starts calling me bad names and accuses me of cheating on with still and hurts my feelings so bad that i ask family for advice on what to do and he finds out and says i need to grow up and stop running to my parents for everything. So once again he breaks up with me and this time i leave for good and moved in with ex, so i thought. I was living with my ex not even three weeks and he wants me back again and promises that he will give me respect and treat me like a queen and he cant live without me, so i was fed up with this back and forth and trusted in what he said to me so i leave my ex for the final time and me and this guy go get a place and now i live with him and he still thinks i am a whore and a slut and you name it i am it he also says i am selfish i dont see how when i pay all the bills and he quit his job so i have to pay for everything but i have found that this guy is a great man and i see that it can go far. I just wish he would start trust and believing in me and in us i give him everything and tell him it was wrong for leaving him to go back with my ex, but is it ? I just jumped a huge leap out of something i knew for him and now look i am begging him to trust me and love me as much as i do everyday i want this now and try this new life with this guy. Help!!!! How can i get him to trust in me and move on in our relationship and close that door along with the name calling cause it hurts. please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Your BF wont ever trust or respect you because he's never been in a relationship where he's ever had to own up to anything. He wont ever see you as anything but a whore because he is an a$$hole. He wont ever apologize for the name calling because you let him get away with it, and once he gets used to calling you names, it will only get worse from there. Get away from this a$$hole while you can, trust me, you can't work things out with a guy like that. Your situation will only get worse unless you get out now. Walk away now!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 January 2010):
Girl!! Neither him or your ex are right for you. You couldn't really leave the ex in the past, and went back to him, and you can't leave this other guy who has insecurity issues. You have to stop seeing both men and focus on your own life. You will find Mr Right. But the fact that you're going backwards and forwards between two men shows neither man is for you. One has been cruel and untrusting, and the other is an ex for a reason. End it with both and focus on yourself for a while.
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