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male
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36-40,
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writes:Help me! I'm an extrovert stuck inside an introvert! On the surface to new people who meet me, I must come across as extremely rude, always with a face of thunder and not talkative, I look that way but don't necessarily feel that way, but I'm never bubbly or a good socialite either even though there is that side of me who wants to socialise and be all of that.Aside from my girlfriend, I have absolutely no actual friends who are girls.... many female acquaintances (sp) but none who I can actually call a good friend, which is quite depressing I think. It's difficult for me to strike up new relationships especially with the opposite sex, and it's so frustrating considering my extrovert side just wants to get out there, and to pre-empt responses, I have tried to talk to women out there, but I think I'm just boring.... which is very depressing, I do okay at the beginning, first few days, but then just run out of things to say :( Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Do you remember when you were a child? Before the baggage and before you felt your first hurt? Go back in your heart and mind to that point in time. That's who you are. Everything after that point has been added on as "baggage". Try to keep that "love" in your heart no matter what hurt you feel or have felt. Be a man, not a macho man, but a loving, caring, giving man. Know what women want! Do Not cry in front of them no matter how much they say they like to see it. Make love to your woman like it's your last time, and treat her like a Queen. OOOZE confidence. How will this help you with other people and relationships..."watch and see".
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Yes, alcohol always helps. But you must not really be into your girl if all you're concerned with is making new girl friends...and you're depressed that you think other girls find you boring. Why do you even have a g.f.? Doesn't sound to me that you even like her, sounds like you consider yourself single & looking!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Why are you concerned with making girl friends if you have a girlfriend?
I am not one of these paranoid type of girls but I have actually learned a lot of male norms about relationships from my own experiences. My last two bf's actually withdrew completely from all other girls in their lives when they were with me. Not cause I said anything. But because I think that is how most normal guys act when they are in love and with a girl they really want to be with. They acted this way on their own.
I don't think it is normal for you to want to be talking to other women unless you are not that interested in your girl, but, anyways, the best thing you can do to break out of your shell is to have a few drinks. That might help. And please be honest with your girlfriend about how you feel. She deserves to know.
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