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writes:So my boyfriend Has had sex once before and we have talked about having sex we are both 15 and he wanted me to be legal but I don't think it's fair because he wasn't and I'm ready! he says he doesn't want to pressure me and I have told him he's not he keeps asking if I'm really ready and I am we have gone out 4 3 months now and we really like each other he has said he we can do it if I'm 100% sure I want to which I am but I'm scared that he won't enjoy it because he has done it before and I havnt. should I tell him this or not I REALLY like him and don't want to lose him. Reply to this Question
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 You say he's had sex before...maybe it was an awful experience for him. I think it's good that he wants to wait until you are 16, this shows that he's doing things properly, not just rushing into everything. He wants your first time to be perfect -- with him!!!!
You say you're ready, but remember, at your age it is still illegal for you to have sex (i know he has broken this law already)
To be honest, it sounds to me like he likes you alot aswell, and is thinking about you and your feelings rather than his own right now. I'm sure that when you guys do get round to having sex, it'll be a wonderful experience for you both. Just remember to stay safe and use protection and lube.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): If he is worth it then he will fully understand and help you through any troubles. Sweetie if you are scared about that give it a little time. I was scared in past relationships, and even a couple months into my current. I waited until suddenly I wasn't scared, and I knew I was ready. If you want to have sex you both need to be able to talk openly and trust one another, otherwise it could be something you really regret. Maybe he is also not ready yet, so keeps asking you to make sure you are 100%...?
Anyways...don't rush into it. I know all the adults say that, and you think it's just annoying. But they mean something behind it, they don't want you to regret it. I've seen too many of my friends make mistakes and really hate their first times. While I am so happy and would never regret it, because I know I can trust him.
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