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writes:I found love, I really did but it didnt work so i pulled the plug. She is playing the pregnancy card on me. She claims she went to the doctor and got tested. She said the doctor is saying since she is on the pill she might have a miscarrage. Whats the chances of this? I believe she may have went to the doctor but yet i believe she just is wanting me around. im just a kid. she is 18 im 17. How do i tell my parents and how do i deal with this. My parents beg me to stay away and she begs me to stay with her. Please tell me the risks and how to break this to my parents. -Desperado
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reader, sunny123  +, writes (27 April 2009):
Did you use contraceptives (i.e a condom) when you slept together? If not then i'm afraid there is a chance she may be pregant. The pill (if taken correctly) is around 98% accurate, however some women forget to take them when they should. Stomach upsets can also make them ineffective. Doctors have recently said that there is a lower risk of miscarriage whilst on the pill than previously thought. If she is pregnant she is therefore not necessarily at an increased risk.You need to discuss this with her and ask if she would be willing to take another pregnancy test with you present. Alternatively you could ask to go to the doctors with her for her next appointment. That way you will know that she is telling the truth. If she is pregnant then you will need to break this to your parents in a mature and sensible way. Explain that you did not mean for this to happen, but now that it has you want to stand up to your responsibilities. Hopefully they will be proud of you for that.Please remember, even if your girlfriend IS pregnant, this is not reason to stay together. Do not let her emotionally blackmail you. As long as you are there for your child, that is all that matters.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): I would go to your parents and sit them down and tell them what is going on. Then I would, with your parents confront her and her parents.If she is still claiming to be pregnant, she will be tested; if she acts like she dont know what youre talking about demand her take one anyhow.I think just about every girl, not all but quite a few will pull this when they want to keep a guy around..No doctor is going to say you will miscarry since youre on the pill. there is a chance she could, but a slim one if that. I have had six myself so i know a thing or two about them. Good luck!
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