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writes:I've known my boyfriend for about 2 years. We were together for about 8 and a half months when we started having really bad problems. Argueing none stop and our connection was lost. We broke up for the summer and although we talked about getting back together I didn't want it anymore. He figured I was never coming back so he started doing his own thing. When December came I began thinking of him alot more and I dont know why. I realized I am so in love with him and dont want to lose this love. So I talked to him and we began dating again. It's been a month and a couple of weeks that we've been back together and I'm just finding out that he got another girl pregnant before we got together. He didn't tell me because he knew I would turn away from him. My feelings for him have all came back quickly but I feel heart broken. I'm only 18 and this isn't anything I thought I'd ever have to go through. I love him and he is my first love but I dont know if i can handle watching him happily handling another family and it's not mine. I'm not a jealous girl and I don't care if he does go out and have fun but I'm not going to be able to trust this situation with him going out with the baby and the girl and that "another connection" is not being made. I'm so confused. I don't want to turn away from him but, he put himself in that position. And I'm so upset. I can't talk to him without getting off the phone and crying. I don't know what to do... Our lives are basically going to be changed forever and there's absolutely nothing I can do about it. I can either try to move on with my life and be depressed for a little bit or stick with this and somehow one day get over the depressed point of life and figure out how to work this out with my boyfriend. Please help me figure out what to do because I'm so upset I can't think of anything and stick with what I've decided.
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reader, lonelyalone +, writes (4 January 2010):
Honey....I can feel your pain. My ex and I were together a year last october. Well....I got pregnant right before christmas in 2008. He cheated on me in January with 2 women..I left him. He said he learned his lesson. While we were broke up...little did I know...he got another girl pregnant....while I was pregnant. It just so happened to be his sisters best friend. I forgave him for cheating. A few months later....he cheated on me with my friend! He did stuff with my sister.....Now here I sit with a 4 month old baby raising her on my own with my 2 little boys. It took alot to get over him...because I did love him...but baby girl...move on! Get rid of him and run as fast as you can! It will only get worse. Don't listen to the I won't do it again scheme! Once it happens...it will always happen!
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reader, Melys  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Honey, I'd move on if I were you...you don't want to get caught up with him having to put his new child first etc...surely that would just annoy you...Remember the reasons why you both split up in the first place?Maybe it's time to move on and find someone who has less baggage, someone who'll put you first..Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Move on your young you will meet plenty of other guys :)you dont need that hassle at your age... x
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2010):
Can you handle that fact that he will have to see the child, pay for the child, bring the child to any house both you and he buy, watch as this child gets a lot of attention while you might not and such. This is a big commitment, and you have already signalled you might not be able to handle it. I think moving on looks like the better option for you.
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reader, NissanMan2009 +, writes (4 January 2010):
Honestly Ive been in aimular situation as that the girl I was with broke up with me while pregnant and then she got with some other guy and it killed me all I wanted was to be with her then I got with someone finally and she broke up with her guy and wanted me back. Eventually we got back together and it has been pretty great ever since. But all the girls I talked to while me and her were broken up said they wouldn't date a guy with someone elses kid on the way. Which sucked because for a while I really didn't want to be with her and I meant it but they still wouldn't date me. Now after our son is here and we bonded in the delivery room... I never want anyone else. I know its not what you want to hear but I would honestly try and let him go... you're only 18 you will find someone else who you love much more then you ever thought you could
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