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writes:Hi, I need some advice please.I live in Queensland with my mum and I am 19 years old. My parents divorced 6 years ago and dad remarried 2 years ago and lives about 1100 miles away interstate in Victoria. By his marriage, I have 2 step brothers who are aged 20 and 17 but have never met them until a week ago. I am currently staying with dad and my step family on holidays for 2 weeks. I have got the hots for Jake, the eldest boy and he has got the hots for me. Two nights ago we started kissing and touching each other and it felt real good.He wanted sex, but I am still a virgin and not on the pill so I refused his offer. I do have feelings for him and believe he has feelings for me. Is it legal for us to have sex should we decide to later on, if the relationship flourishes? We are not blood related and Jake could be any guy walking down the street. I am too embarrassed to mention anything to my dad, mum, or step mum about this. Can someone please offer me some prudent advice.Thank You very muchTracey
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reader, Cezar  +, writes (27 July 2010):
If your love is authentic then it is not wrong. Think what if this love is truer than what your parents have for each other. However, if you end up marrying him, if this works out I will do a scenario of your family tree. It doesn't mean this will actually happen, I will just do the scenario for you in the event that it would. However, it gets tricky. Have some antipsychotic pills and tranquilizers handy as you sail through this...
Your husband becomes your father's son-in-law, and step son at the same time. Your father becomes your own step father-in-law, because he is your husband's step father, and your step mother becomes your mother-in-law.
Let's say your step mother, or your mother-in-law, has a child with your father. Which will become your half brother. Then you will become your half-brother's sister-in-law, because your half-brother is also your step brother's brother and the son of your father-in-law...
Soo... when you give birth to a child that you have with your husband, your own child will also become your step nephew, because he is your step brother's son. Your husband's other good brother becomes your brother-in-law and step brother. So your son, or your step nephew, will have become your husband's brother's nephew. Your son also becomes the nephew of your little brother-in-law or half brother, the son that your father-in-law has with your step mother.
Thus you have become the daughter-in-law of your step mother, your father is your in-law, your mother-in-law is your step mother, your husband is your brother-in-law, and you will be to yourself a sister-in-law.
And I for one salute you all, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the look-for-medication, because if you ever be brought in the crazy ward, then ... you have the most solid excuse ... It was normal. Anyone else would have gone crazy...
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reader, niceguy07  +, writes (24 October 2008):
 it can just be that you two are too close in proximity with one another. in other words, you feel the excitement of being with one another because you are so close to another. think of it this way, had u met him on the street, and u did not live together, would u be as attracted to him as you are now? i had a similar situation in which my step sister lived with me (non blood related), and i was 19 and she was 23, and we just had an extreme sexual attraction to one another. So we had sex for a while but we figured out it was a simple sexual attraction. Figure out whether all u want is sex or more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Well technically I don't think it's anything wrong with it. I mean there's no blood relation so IF under circumstances you become pregnant with his child it wouldn't be like your unborn child would be a result of incest.
You are both adults so it's not like you are two youngsters just getting it on, and like you said you two could have met anywhere and started dating...
Are you planning on just meeting up with him and keeping it quiet, or are you planning on making it a public relationship where both of your families know?
You both need to get on the same page with what you want, because if it's just a sex thing, maybe just keeping it quiet would be best, because if things didn't work out then the less that knew about it would probably be better, that way it wouldn't mess up your dad's relationship with his stepson... because if your dad is like most, then he probably doesn't like the thought of anyone having sex with his daughter, much less his stepson... that would cause conflict between him and his wife.
If I were you I would get to know him better before I start telling the family. Because everyone has their own opinion and you two will probably face some criticism if you two decide to make it public, and it would sound better when you said that yall are wanting to see each other because yall care for each other rather than just because yall want to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008):
First you need to realize if your step-brother wants you for the right reasons. If he is only looking for sex, like most guys are then I don't think it is wise to go further with the relationship. Don't look for short term gains when the long term affects are disasterous. How do you think this will affect your relationship with your family and especially your father. Would he lose trust in his daughter. Father's are more attached to their daughters than to their sons. If you step-brother is understanding enough he should respect your feelings. If you are not comfortable moving forward with the relationship from what you said about embarrassing yourself in front of your parents and friends then I suggest you think it over. Sex isn't everything. I am sure there are a lot of guys out there who are willing to give you the love that you deeply desire. You just need to be a little bit patient. 19 is to young to be wasting it on complex things like relationship with family members. 19 is a vibrant age, an age full of love, confusion, and rebellion. If you plan on pursuing this relationship I suggest you get it out in the open otherwise, you might just regret it. You are putting your family relationship at risk. Family ties are what you need for the rest of your life, don't break it. Please think it over.
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