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writes:So, this is one of those 'what did this mean?' questions and I would appreciate your opinions. Went to a bar just chilling with a friend of mine (I've only known her for a few months) and I'd say we are very close but I'm not sure I think about her in 'that' way and I assume she doesn't feel that way about me. We just laughed and joked and talked about everything and everyone all night, had a very brief dance (only the kind of dance I might have with a family member at a wedding, nothing intimate) and when we exited the bar it was raining. I was quite surprised when she took out an umbrella and suddenly linked arms with me pulling me towards her, and we walked under the umbrella just talking until we got to a nearby fast food place and went inside. After eating we came out and she did the exact same thing. I walked her home (about a fifteen minute walk) and about five minutes into the walk the rain stopped so she put away her umbrella and we just walked normally. When we got to hers I just hugged her and said goodnight as I normally would. Just wondering if this was an innocent thing that women do with their friends, or whether it was a sign of flirting? I did have a kind of 'woah, I didn't expect that' feeling at the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2020): I agree with the other posters. I don’t see the umbrella incident as her trying to flirt with you, especially since she put it away as soon as it stopped raining. If it does turn out she likes you as something more than a friend, time will tell. This incident alone is not enough to come to that conclusion. Just relax and keep enjoying each other’s company. It sounds like you have a good friend in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2020): Ask her if you can take her out to dinner. Figure it out from there.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (8 March 2020):
 She was sharing an umbrella with you. How else could she keep the umbrella over both of you without linking arms? I have done the same on numerous occasions with friends and even my married boss. It means "stay close so we can both stay dry", nothing more.
Are you wishing it meant more? If so, next time you are out, link arms with her without the excuse of staying close under an umbrella and see what the reaction is.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 March 2020):
 I see nothing strange in her behavior?
It rained she shared her umbrella, walking arm in arm meant that the both of you could fit under it and not get wet.
I'd say, she is thoughtful, kind and sweet.
I don't think she had any "ulterior motives" by her actions, as she put down the umbrella and your arm, when the rain stopped.
My question is this, while you start off saying you don't like her "like that"... are you sure? Because you seem to read WAY more into her actions than I think she meant.
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