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writes:Hi, I'm currently in a really happy relationship but my girlfriend has gone away for a couple of months and I can't cope. I have been seeing her a couple of months but we practically live together and we are pretty much the same person in different bodies. Since she's been away I'm lucky if I get to speak to her more than 10 minutes a day on facebook sometimes we can't speak at all and it's killing me. We have gone from spending all our time together to not even having a proper conversation. She's only been gone a couple of days. Everytime I think of her I get the biggest lump in my throat and feel like bursting out in tears at the thought of not seeing her and speaking to her for that long. She told me she feels the same.It sounds ridiculous i know as i'll see her in a few months but I'm just looking for some advice to help me deal with it better. Thanks
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (10 June 2013):
 "I have been seeing her a couple of months but we practically live together and we are pretty much the same person in different bodies."
This is somewhat unhealthy, not because it's bad to have a close relationship but because she seems to have become your world after just a couple of months. What would you do if you split up? It's great that you've found each other but you seem to have put your happiness in her hands and that's never good.
Of course you should miss her, but you should also do things for yourself. If you lead a busy and interesting life, you have less time to miss her. A relationship shouldn't be the central focus of your life but rather a great added bonus.
If you have been spending all your time and energy on your girlfriend, perhaps you've been neglecting your other friends. Reconnect with them, have some fun. The more fun you have, the faster the time will pass and the sooner you'll see her.
As for your girlfriend, try to schedule a proper phone conversation rather than Facebook. Depending where she is and what she's doing, taking into consideration different time zones if this is relevant, find a time when you're both relaxed and have some time to speak and connect.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (10 June 2013):
 Find a serious time sink. I suggest taking up a time-consuming and engrossing habit like World of Warcraft. No, I'm not being sarcastic or trying to crack jokes, I'm 100% serious. It's a fun game but in order to be good at it, it takes a real investment in time and dedication.You won't notice your loneliness as much if you can find a guild that has Ventrilo or Teamspeak or another voice-program for their guild members to chat in while playing. If you can find a nice guild full of people who are okay with teaching a new player, you've got yourself a great way to socialize with other people while doing something fun.If you're not into video games, I suggest taking up golf or putting in some serious gym time, or perhaps picking up another part-time job.
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