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writes:Mmmmmm i don't know if my question is stupid or it is fine because i really don't know if it is normal or notMy boyfriend and i are having a little problem while having sex We want to do many positions but the problem is with his dick It's not straight ....little slooping (skew) to the top i dont know the word but is it normal?? How can he make it straight and why it becomes askew Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2013): It's fine and it's normal unless it completely destroys his sexual function which it doesn't sound like it does. He can't straighten his penis without surgery.
OP I have a very pronounced curve on my penis, it means a lot of positions are out of the question for me but positions are just a novelty anyway there are only about 5 I use regularly and those 5 are the ones perfect for my shape and size, once I got to know how to use my penis properly, which positions work best then I've had zero problems with my sexual performance.
In fact I can hit spots that a straight penis can't.
If he's worried he can go to a doctor about it, but it doesn't sound like it's a problem at all really, more sounds like he hasn't learned how to use it well or that you two seem to think you need to do the positions that don't well for his shape.
Instead of trying to do positions that he can't manage, work on getting the ones he can manage right.
For example the bend I have makes missionary very pleasurable for my fiancée when I angle my hips and her hips right and adjust my depth, using the right motion I can massage her g-spot with very little effort, too deep and I hit her cervix, too shallow and it'll keep popping out, the wrong angle and it doesn't massage it will hit it. You know what I mean?
OP using a penis is like craft, and you have to learn your craft with the tools you have.
Instead of trying to do the reverse cowboy and getting pissed off that he can't make his penis a shape that will allow that, do the regular cowboy and perfect it.
I mean I can't do regular doggy style at all, I made my own version where the women is on a table or chair and far bent down and at an angle that allows my shape to work well but is also comfortable for the woman.
OP the number of positions you can do is irrelevant. The real trick to is to perfect the positions he can do.
I can't do reverse cowgirl at all, but I can do an adapted version of it which works really well.
You'll figure things out OP, when I was young an inexperienced like you I too thought I had to do the positions exactly like you see them in porn and in books, but that's bullshit, you have to adapt whatever position you so that it feels great to do it. My version of missionary looks quite different to what you see in books etc. but from what past partners have told me it's far better and I'm known as a guy who knows what to do with what he has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the reply, i don't blame him and i really don't mind about the askew, he complained about it and i wanted to make sure that it is a normal thing The bend is little but the last two times after we had sex his penis hurts him from inside We will check with the doctor :) thank you i really appreciate your answer ??
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reader, Abella  +, writes (10 June 2013):
 Your Boyfriend needs to visit the Doctor and perhaps the Doctor could refer him to a urologist. The specialist may order a special test to confirm what the Doctor will probably diagnose, just from observing the bend.What your boyfriend has is completely NORMAL for about 10% of men in the community. It bothers some men and is celebrated by some other men. Some men claims it allows them to satisfy the their partner more.Doctor's can only speculate on the causes so far. And there are some treatments, but most treatments have limited success. Most men just put up with it. You poses no threat to you, as you are a woman. It is a man's issue only.For some men the bend is only slight. If the bend is very pronounced it can cause pain for the man. Your boyfriend has done nothing wrong to get this bend in his penis. It is nothing he should ever blame himself for.Your boyfriend can still get you pregnant if you don't use contraception protection. A Doctor can explain what it is and how the bend occurs.But in no way can your boyfriend be blamed for the bend. The situation just happens to some men and not others.Through no fault of the man at all.
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