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writes:How can I acept that my husband doesn't want me anymore?How can I acept that he left me because he is tired of me, because he sais I am other person after the marriage. because he sais I am not more of kind of women that he likes?My marriage is over, I just need to now how survive.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): Then just let him go find his model or whatever it is he wants and when you recover, you will find someone who loves you as you are. He will realize what he has lost at some point in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice...
And like you said (the first comment) he sounds superficial..yes he is..I just realized that...I think he is looking for a model or something like this....well I guess he will find a model but he won't find a real woman...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): (((hugs))) Seek help of friends and family to get through this and do whatever you need to do to grieve the loss. He sounds superficial, but that doesn't lessen the love or pain that you feel, it will be his loss. Maybe in the long run you will see that he is not worthy of you.
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reader, Malcom  +, writes (12 January 2011):
Please understand that you are not alone. It may seem that family and friends are not enough to rid you of this hurt that is making you feel your heart is going to burst, but believe me, they are the ones you need.
You say "How can I accept?" What you are experiencing is the worst kind of grief. Unlike bereavement, the loved one is still around so closure is so much more difficult to achieve.
You will survive because those around you will be there. You must believe in yourself and see that it is his loss in leaving you and that you have the strength of your friends and family around you.
Only you know how you feel at this moment and only you can truly understand the hurt - but give yourself time and space and you will get there.
Be strong, even though you don`t want to feel strong and seek the support you need.
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reader, _nataliebeebaybee1 +, writes (12 January 2011):
 right , I know this is crap for you at the moment , but hes told you , your not his type ! You have memories but you deserve a whole lot more BELIEVE ME ! when are you going to wake up and smell the coffee !? This boy doesnt really have much going for him , hes got married to you and that was his unwise decision. Hes made a commitment & yet hes given up soooooo easily ! Have you tried reasoning with him first , afterall yous are married. Ask him where these feelings have come from ? What is he currently thinking about the situation ? How have you suddenly changed as a person to when yous got married? There are tons of questions maybe its a phase.
I am going to tell you this , the truth may hurt , but have you ever wondered whether hes found another women. Confront him ! It really does sound like hes looking for an easy escape making up excuses ! Does he really want to go on knowing he wont ever have children with you ?
Put thoughts into his head. At the end of the day he really doesnt seem commited and thats what marriage is all about ! he should be your strength in times of need. Do you really want to be with a man thats gonna say " Your not my type of girl !"
Surviving shouldnt be that hard once you have approached him on the situation. Try to talk him round and if that doesnt work. MOVE ON ! Hes obviously not that into you. It might be hard to get your head around, but you need a boy thats gonna be there for you, someone that tells you your BEAUTIFUL, someone that will spend all ight talking through problems ad worries that you have ! You deserve better and once you get over the hard break up and find another boy , you will be wondering why the hell you waited around !
Goodluck , keep your chin up ! x
Natalie
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): It is very difficult. i've been there myselfOne of the best ways, which helped me, was trying to replace the material things that meant something to you both and that also reminded you of your soon to be ex hubby.Plus another tip, if possible, avoid the places you went to together, at least until the hurt goes away.Also look in the mirror every day and say to yourself your a wonderful person and it will be his loss not yours.i really hope this helps. good luck
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