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writes:Help me please!. I'm pulling my hair our here! I go to church every Sunday. Now I've known this family at church for a few years. Mates with the mom. Has three gorgeous boys. I have always liked the middle one. Except he has a gf since I've known him for two years. I used to ignore my feelings. But these last few months it's been irresistible. I can't. I've even caught him looking at me in church. His girl friend is never around when I see him. HELP! I'm in danger of seriously loving this guy!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, xsemenelinx  +, writes (24 September 2011):
 STOP.... that's the word.... stealing is a crime.. i mean it base on my experience.. whether you prosper and be your man it will turn out to be nothing.. i mean it.. contain it.. since you go to church better ask HIM that He will come up with someone but not another s turf... the worst part if you will be together is.. 1. blamed that they fell out.. 2. hurt you and leave you... PRAY my friend to be guided..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): He may be looking at you because you are looking at him, and he can tell that you like him. The fact is he has a girlfriend so that is the end of that. If I were you, and I have been, keep your distance, distract yourself by spending time with friends, taking up a new hobby, anything to keep your mind off him. I'm sorry that you have fallen for someone who is taken, I know it hurts. The only thing to do is accept that he is someone else's and keep yourself occupied the best you can. Good Luck with it all.
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reader, blackberrypie  +, writes (24 September 2011):
Please, let it go. He has a girlfriend and a family. Chances are, he won't leave them for you. Leave well alone. You don't want to ruin their lives - and more importantly, your own!
Start to keep yourself busy. Start a new hobby - preferably, one where you can meet new people, make new friends and perhaps even meet a new man.
Have you ever considered joining a dating site?
You need to keep your mind off him. If it gets too bad, I'd strongly consider finding a different church to go to.
Wish you all the best!
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (24 September 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you are so desperately in love with him, but he's taken. He has a girlfriend, and I know how difficult must be for you to be in silence so many years, and not be able to be with him, and express your feelings.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but there's not much you can do. When you go to church, stay away from him, and avoid him by all means. Try not to look at him, be in the same place, etc.
You can try to talk to him, tell him how you feel, and hope he has any feelings for you, but we all know this is not right? I know it's not fair for you to feel sad, but put yourself on his girlfriend place for once? Imagine if a random girl was trying go steal your boyfriend?
Anyways, hope you feel better, and find peace.
Good luck
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