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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Iv'e always had a high sex drive but it's getting ridiculous. I have been with my girl for 10 years now. We used to have more sex in the begining and it was great but now that she doesn't want so much anymore, I find myself turning to porn and i'm finding other girls really hot. I love my girl and i wanna propose to her next year but I'm scared that shes not happy with me and my sex needs anymore. When we try and talk about it she just tells me that I'm wrong for wanting it so much and being so horny but she doesn't understand that I can't help it. I try to take my mind off it with other things and even tried new hobbies, I really want to stay with her but sex is so stale and I know people say that it's not everything but lets face it, it's important to be sexually connected with your partner. Can anyone giv me any advice on how to lose my horny feelings all the time or lower my sex drive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Try visiting this site, it may help to have other men to talk to... npsupport.net or recoverynation.com
You haven't given us enough information to gage if you truly are a sex addict, or just have a high sex drive but I am taking your word that you are an addict (most people won't say something like that if they are not).
Your marriage would not survive sexual addiction, most any addiction wreaks havoc on relationships, but sexual is particularly hard for the significant other to deal with. The best thing you can do is get help now, the sooner the better so that the quality of your life and relationship improve :)
Best of luck to you, you are on the right path.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): You never said your age, and that is important to answer this question. Sexual needs change over time--I don't care who the couple is. Friendship becomes more important.
Ever heard of a female slut? Well, you are falling into that department for a male. Expectations for males should be the same as femals as far as fidelity goes. STD's are rampant. You don't have fidelity to give the girl you supposedly love.
Trust, loyalty--these are the things that make a marriage work.
See a counselor.
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male
reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 You are right. You don't want to start a marriage with incompatible sex drives.
FA
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