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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 NO not your approval... you miss my point... (not your fault I'm often OBTUSE)...
I just don't think that a friendship is worth risking by blindsiding a friend...
you don't go and ask approval you just FORWARN her that you are going to date her brother... she may have a comfort level... it's a common courtesy IMO (having dated a friend's brother I speak from experience)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 So my being friends with you means you can't date my sibling unless I bestow my approval?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 January 2012):
because friends are harder to come by than lovers and IF she values her friendship and wants to date her friend's brother common decency tells me that "clearing it" with her friend first is a good idea.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (10 January 2012):
Why should poster ask the friend about it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 January 2012):
Ah yes if you date her brother and it does not work out what happens???? I get that
I lost my virginity to my then best friend’s brother… we were YOUNG teens… I had dinner with her the other night after not seeing her for 20 years and WE laughed about it… seems she told her brother she was having dinner with me and it dredged up tons of old fond memories…
Another lovely couple I know is a sister married to her sister’s husband’s brother! That’s right two sisters married two brothers…. And they have all been married to each other over 40 years for each couple…
Why not talk to your friend and see how she feels about it….
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reader, asyoulikeit  +, writes (10 January 2012):
asyoulikeit is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni don't care that he is younger 10 months is barely a difference to me
its just that he's my friends brother
i guess its a crush i keep waiting for it to fade away..but it seems like the more i try and move on the more i kinda like him its so awkward i can't do that to his sister i know shed be weirded out
from september till now i swear I've started liking him more
if i see him everyday its hard to avoid talking to him
what other things could i try?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
is it cause he's your friend's brother or cause he's younger??
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 January 2012):
What is the problem with girl likes guy?
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