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writes:Finally got a guy I like but it's not what I expected.I really liked a guy but he had a girlfriend. He sometimes would complain to me that she would never go out with him and she would never invite him out. He dumped her over this. I really like him, but as soon as we started going out, he started inviting me out. I think he wants to spend every hour of our lives together! I like him, but sometimes I need time alone or with my friends. I don't want to tell him this because he might dump me or complain about me. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for ya help!! im gona tlk to him so wish me luck lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): It sounds like you are a better match for him than his ex as he and his ex might have different notions of fun. A balanced relationship is comprised of time together, but equally important is that time that you spend with your friends and doing the things that make you unigue. It should make you a more interesting companion when he is with you. Another idea is spending time with other couples. If he loves you he will understand your need for some alone time. Do not worry that he will dump you or gossip about you. If he does either of these things than I think that there might be someone out there that would be more understanding. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): Lauren, that first sentence of yours cracked me up for some reason... 8]
Hmm... Well, that's the thing right? You don't know how to gauge your bf's neediness (is that a word?). So hmm... Delicate. He sounds like a delicate guy.
So like Lauren suggested, you have to tell him delicately. So if my gf came to me about the issue, she should probably say, "You know, I love spending my time with you. You make me feel so comfortable, I wish I can cuddle to sleep with you every night. However, sometimes I still would like some private time by myself, or to see my friends. Is that cool with you?"
Something along those lines... Mhm... (how come I feel as the other Aunts and Uncles, kangaroos, sheep, cows, and cats have abandoned the main site?)
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reader, ..x..Lauren..x.. +, writes (12 April 2006):
 I have a boyfriend and stop this i dont see him much so it more fun when i do. It seems you feel hes taking over your life somehow. You need to gently tell him that you do like him lots and lots to reassure him but you want to see your mates more than you do now. If he takes it the wrong way tell him you really hoped he wouldnt react like this and tell him the less he sees you the more exciting it will become when he does. Hope I have helped somehow, update me by leaving me a message! :) ..x..Lauren..x..
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