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writes:Couple of months back i lost my virginity to this boy I'd gotten to know pretty well - who had been chasing me for a while. Personality wise we were a great match and always got on amazingly, thing is he was always open about the fact he wasnt interested in relationships longer than one night. Unfortuntly I'd kidded myself that because we got on so well and stuff I'd change him. I was wrong obviously and although he still shows an interest in me, he's still messing with other girls. My feelings for him were pretty strong when we slept together and I'm struggling to move on. I hate that I just gave him what he wanted even though I knew better, hardly what i want to remember about my first time. How can i get over him!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Let's get one thing straight. This is NOT a relationship and it never was. This was a booty call for him and it was a booty call for you. I know you think it was something different for you. But that's what you are projecting onto the situation, not what actually happened.
You don't need to get him back, or demonstrate your worth to him, or do anything else to get the upper hand. The game is already over. He won. He got what he wanted, you didn't, and he's moved on already.
So you can waste more energy on him, or you can put energy into someone else who actually treats you with respect.
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reader, lovnlife  +, writes (2 July 2009):
you will always remember your first and that suck ing this case but if you start acting like he do and talking to other guys maybe it will get his attention that you are someone that he might want to keep you ant change anyone but you can make him think about you as much as you think about him
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reader, kokopebbles +, writes (1 July 2009):
He is a player and he isn't worth your time. Go out there and live your dreams and make sure that he isn't apart of them. A guy like that doesn't deserve someone like you. He was obviously after one thing, and a man like that is always messing around with other girls becuase..well, he isn't looking for commitment..he just wants to screw around. So if he is still interested then just ignore him. It's not worth it. You don't want to get hurt again.
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