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writes:Alright so this isn't really a question but more of a combination of a question and a rant. It might be really long but I really need help with this. Its kind of a long storyso last year was my first year in highschool. my first semester instead of having gym, I had health class. There were people I knew in my class, considering we were are all in the same grade, so I guess the class was not a complete bummer.. anyways so our teacher mrs. Wilson put us in alphabetical order, and I sat next to this guy named chris. I thought he was really cute, and was actually pretty excited about the class. He started talking to me daily, and when we had group work he always volunteered to be my partner.One day he asked me for my number so we can talk after school, and maybe hang out some time, so of coarse we exchanged numbers. So now the flirting went to not only at school, but also when we texted each other out of school. We also had a cooking class together after health everyday, where we were also able to talk to each other.Me and chris used be able to talk about anything together and it would never get weird, and considering the fact that he was somewhat immature our convos were usually really amusing lol. Everyone knew we liked each other, even our teachers, and most were just waiting for the announcement that made it official. This went on for about a month... but later things began to get awkward. One night we were texting really late, id say to about 2 am, and I was getting really tired,but he begged me to stay on. We were talking about this rumor that apparently his best friend hooked up with a senior or something like that, and we started to make jokes about it. He was acting really perverted but that was normal for him, and I knew that. And then somehow we got into a convo about pictures. AND THEN he asked me to send him a nude of me. Naturally, I said hell no, and thankfully he dropped the subject and we both went to bed. However, this is when things began to get touchy. At school he began to touch and slap my butt, which at first I was like haha ok stop it; but he never did and it was starting to get really annoying. Then he kept giving me hugs, and once even held my hand. Everyone at school now thought that we had a thing. A couple weeks later he brought up the subject of a picture again, and I always said no. I tried to be like oh why me, and why not someone else, or just look one up on your own;and he kept telling me that I was beautiful, and he wanted to see me. I never bought it.If he thought I was pretty, and he liked me, why wouldn't he just ask me out already. (the thought cam about social statuses. He was semi popular, but most definitely not at the top, and wasn't a nerd either, but I wasn't as popular as he was). Pretty soon, he began to ask me for a photo almost everyday. It got to the point where he wouldn't even text me at least hi first. He'd just say Pic?. All during this time I was, like any other teen girl in this situation would do, absolutely telling only my closest friends what was going on. They kept telling me to drop him, before things got worse, and I got hurt, but I didn't listen. How could I? This was a guy, that actually liked me, that had never happened before; and plus he wasn't so bad looking himself either. But that was the biggest mistake I could have possibly ever made. He had never stopped asking, or getting touchyat school. It had gotten to the point where he began to beg me at school. But im a smart girl, I never gave in. Time had flied by and pretty soon It was already almost half way through in the school year. Chris had gone out with a girl in 8th grade for like 3 weeks, but their love soon disappeared. Shortly after middle school, the girl (KATHY) had started catholic school; so she no long attented our school. In December she moved back to public school. IN JUST 3 DAYS OF HER BEING BACK she and chris started going out, and were official. That broke my heart. After all of this time of leading me on, and telling me what he said, and spending time together at football games, and school dances; he just got back with Kathy, as if I had never existed. However, during their 2 week relationship, he never stopped touching, or asking me for the picture, which just proved how faithful he was. Once they broke up, things went back into full swing once again. Soon he would only ask occatinally, and our convos got really awk, and seemed to loose interest in me, but I was the total opposite. I fell in love with Chris. I felt like a princess around him, and I felt like we could talk about anything. I even would talk about him to my parents. I was sure he felt the same way. Towards the end of the year, he would only talk to me about only like once a month. My feelings never changed, but he wasn't satisfied. Once school had ended I promised him id send him a picture of me going to the beach, which I thought was perfectly acceptable, because it was just a bikini, and it was summer, so it was fine. That didn't stop him tho, he wanted more, but I refused. Once summer was over it was time to go back to school. We currently do not have any classes together but we see eachother in the hallway at least 4 times a day, and its really awkward. He has only talked to me like once this year, and all he did is say hi and we talked about school. I see him everyday and each time, my heart breaks even more. Idk if I was the one who ruined it btwn us because I didn't send the picture, or was it his fault. Im really depressed because of it. Chris has a current girlfriend of a week, and I think she knows some of what happened btwn us, because everytime I see her she stares me down, or gives me weird looks. I know he still has feelings for me, he always tries to walk as close to me as possible when in the hallway, and his friends have told me, that he still occasionally mentions me when talking to them. I now honestly do not know what to do with my life. Im not popular so therefore, its not like I get guys like its an everyday thing. I still have feelings for him, and my friends do not understand me. They think I should just forget about him. I really want to get back what we had together. and I want that sense of happiness one more time. PLEASE HELP. I need advice. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You so much guys.
I feel so much better about this. Hopefully, this all clears up soon, and ill find someone better.
Thanx again :)
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 You want to get all the butt slapping, perverted comments and a constant stream of "NUDE PIC NUDE PIC NUDE PIC"? You know that's just him treating you with disrespect right? You may have some affection for him but it just seems to me like he just wants to either get in your pants or humiliate you.The thing is, if he really wants to see you naked then he's got to earn it first by being in a relationship with you. If he just wants a nude pic of you, chances are he has plans to spread it around the school and ruin your life.If he can ask two other girls out but not you and he continues to treat you like he does, then he probably just wants a fuck buddy.The reason why you are starting to feel all this angst and what you believe to be 'love' for this dude is because you are missing his attention. He used to talk to you all the time and now he doesn't; of course you're going to miss that and feel sad. But seriously, this guy obviously doesn't want to talk to you anymore and why??? Because you refuse to give him a nude pic? What kind of trade is that??? It just seems like he thinks there's nothing going for you except a naked pic (which he can use however he wants). I think you should find someone else who actually wants to talk to you because they think you're awesome, not just so they can collect material that can potentially harm your social life. It may take awhile to find that person but I think the wait is worth it. Don't settle for a jerk.
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