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writes:Im really sad and lonely after a break up. I literally can't think about anything but "him" I miss him more than anything. I've lost my appetite and haven't been hungry for days now I talked to friends about it but it didn't really help...He doesn't talk to me anymore and I wish he did, I check my phone hoping I see a text from him and nothing.. Last night i had a dream he came back and everything was fine i was so happy but then i woke up...I don't know what to do :( I'm just so heartbroken. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all, I really wish he would come back to me. I've never felt so unwanted. It's killing me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): I know it doesn't feel like it, but what you're going through is perfectly normal. It would be more disturbing if you didn't feel that way after a breakup.
Just keep in mind that it really does get better in time!!! Every time I go through I breakup, I feel like the agony will last forever, but it always does get better. Maybe not as fast as you'd like, but seriously, it will not be long before you go a whole day without thinking about it, and then you'll go a whole week, and then you'll forget altogether!
In the meanwhile, all you can do is take care of yourself! Treat your broken heart like you would any other illness... it takes time and tenderness, and you need to take it easy on yourself so you can heal. It's great that you're talking with friends, so keep that up and make sure to reach out! Also, go to the bookstore and check out the self help section. I read this book called, "It's called a breakup because it's broken..." that really lifted my spirits and gave me hope. Make sure you get yourself some exercise too, since that really will lift your mood and take your mind off of your misery. And now is a GREAT time to take up a new hobby. You need to get yourself out of the house and get your mind off of things! So take a yoga class or do something new that you always wanted to do! My last breakup, I took up running, and now I'm training for a marathon! So this is a great opportunity to change your life and come out the other end even better than before!
Also, maybe you could find a message board for people going through breakups, so you had some more people to relate to. I've used soyouvebeendumped.com and it really helped!
Whatever you do, DO NOT CONTACT YOUR EX!!!!! This is like tearing off a bandaid slowly. It hurts like h*** now, but trust me, the faster you get it over with, the better! I know if feels like this is the only person in the world who could make you feel better, but actually this is the person who caused all the pain in the first place!
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reader, Breonhia +, writes (2 November 2010):
 I am going through the same thing right now but im going to tell you what my parents and friends told me if this boy loves you he'll come back but if he dosent then you have to move on like him because if he's not crying and thinking about you crazy then why should you waste your time on him know what i mean? but still i know it may be hard to get over him because us girls somtimes put everything we got into a realationship and they put half or not even half and when we love them there still trying to decided there feelings so the best thing i say is trust god that someone will find you thats better than him and someone that will love you and when he comes back you can just dust him off your shoulders because you found sombody that you love thats what im doing and let me know how that works out for you
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reader, tim88  +, writes (2 November 2010):
if he really loves u he ll get back to u and if not it is useless to worry...u r a nice cute girl that love somebody so much...u deserve a nice guy...so look for a nice guy who understands u...make him envy,,,
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