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writes:Hey, so I'm 15. I've decided to break up with my boyfriend. We've been going out for 11 months, and we both care about each other alot, but things have changed, and we don't make each other as happy as we used to. I'm in high school, and high school is about having fun. I also care about him so much that I dont want him to be unhappy, and since he is unhappy with me and I with him, I think its only logical to end it.It hurts alot, thnking of ending it. I'm going to do it tomorrow. I just need advice on how to get over him, because i truly care about him so much. I know we wouldn't have been together forever, but it is really important right now. I know I'm only 15, but this is the first guy who I have truly, truly cared about and truly felt connected to. I'm scared I won't ever feel this way again. :( Please help? Reply to this Question
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reader, m.  +, writes (9 December 2010):
I'm happy for you!! Best wishes :)
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reader, sorrely +, writes (28 November 2010):
sorrely is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, I decided not to break up with him, and I'm VERY glad I did, because I care about him alot and I would not want to lose that. Thanks for your advice.
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reader, sorrely +, writes (13 November 2010):
sorrely is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of your advice, but we have already talked about how it isn't the same any more, and we don't make each other happy any more. We tried changing things, and we've been very unhappy for a few months now. I'm going to end it, so please just help me get over him. I know that I will find someone else. There are thousands of fishes in the sea.
And I should not be with someone because I have feelings for them, if they do not make me happy. I know that nothing will be perfect, but there's a point when you just know that to be happy you have to end it, I guess. I want him to be happy and I want to be happy. And the only way to do that is to let him go.
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reader, m. +, writes (13 November 2010):
Hey!
I'm 16, so I can understand you very weel :) Actually, I think that you have to think about it: you could probably regret it, once you've done it. Just try to talk with him and see what he thinks, maybe you can find those feelings you have lost. I tell you this because when I was 14 I left my bf for your same reasons. He now is happy, I'm not. I'm not saying that you won't find an another guy who will make you fall in love, I'm saying that if your bf has been very important to you, well, you should just give him the chance of changing something :)
Bye!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 In my honest opinion, I really do not think you should break up with him simply because things have died down all of a sudden. You still care about each other and clearly there are still deep feelings between you. Every relationship has its great moments near the beginning and you must have expected that one day you would not feel that happy, only because you are jaded by it. In my opinion, you are better off staying together with someone you feel deeply about than suffering through the ramifications of a heartache. I am throwing my perspective at you for your consideration.
I still intend to help you get over him if/when you break up with him. It would be better for the both of you to stop talking to each other for a while. I am in now way suggesting that you avoid him but, lessen the amount of contact you have with him until you feel that your feelings for him and faded.
I hope that helps.
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