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writes:My ex and I have been broken up for about 10 weeks now and the entire ordeal has been rough for me, especially when I found out that she's been dating somebody new right when our relationship ended. I've done everything that I can think of to move on. I've tried to keep busy everyday but she's still on my mind a lot. I've been in NC with her for about a month now and that has made me miss her even more. Throughout the breakup period there was always hope that I would get a chance to be with her again. But now that she's approaching the 2 month mark of that new relationship and she's still happy with him I'm starting to realize that she'll never be coming back to me. And this pain is too hard to bear. Is there hope that she'll come back to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): ~YES, THERE IS HOPE~
My ex recently returned to me four months subsequent our breakup. We are friends, better groomed and more respecting of one another.
~BREAKUPS HAPPEN FOR A POSITIVE REASON~
I hope your ex returns to You.
God Bless~
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reader, coughcough  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 There is always hope in everything. However, just like the chiche saying goes " one door closes another opens". You can't make someone love you. You can tell her how you feel, suggest working things out, and if she isn't willing, then you can move on with your life. Its very hard dealing with a loss of someone you're very close to but it can be done. So if she comes back is something noone can tell you. If you two are both willing to rekindle your relationship then its possible things can work out but it has to do with you taking the initiative and be willing to love yourself enough not to let your brokenheart rule your life if things don't play out how you'd like them to.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 That all really depends on why you broke up in the first place. If it was because of constant conflict, I do not think getting back together is such a good idea unless you are confident that the same arguments will not happen again, but even then, there is little hope to be found here if she is happy with this new boyfriend of hers. If it was because she just felt no love for you anymore, there is little chance that she will go back to you. You just have to move on.
I am not going to lie, nothing is impossible so there is always a chance that she will go back to you but, do not let your mind linger around such hope as it could prove to be a mere waste of heart and mind. Distract yourself from thinking of her. When you do find yourself flooded with any memories or fantasies, push them away with other thoughts. Keep trying and eventually, those feelings will fade away. It may take a long time but this is what you need in my opinion.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): you have to accept reality and move on man. you have to also ask yourself why did she leave in the first place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): you can never know but if she's been truly happy with that guy i highly doubt that she'll ever come back but you said that she went out with someone right when yall broke up maybe she has been cheating on you this whole time because to find someone that fast is a little suspicious just find someone new i'm sure there's someone for you.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (20 November 2010):
 Breakups are always painful. I have no doubt that you are going through a very sad time right now… especially since your girlfriend moved on to a new relationship so fast. There is always a possibility that your girlfriend will come back to you, but you cannot sit around waiting for something that may never happen! You’ve spent the last 10 weeks hanging on to any glimmer of hope. It’s time to concentrate on yourself and your own well being now. The sooner you accept that she is gone, the sooner you can begin the healing process. Time is truly the best healer. Have comfort in knowing that everybody experiences heartbreak at least once in their lives… so you are hardly alone. It may seem like the world as you know it has ended… but the pain will slowly heal and you will fall in love with another lucky woman in the future. Keep busy… talk to family and friends… and get out of the house. Don’t worry… you will get through this. :)
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