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writes:I am a 21 year old woman and have worked with a man who is the same age as me for around a year and recently we have become good friends. Around 4 months ago we shared a kiss but because we were both drunk I put it mostly down to the alcohol. Although after the kiss it was initially awkward, I think it helped us become better friends in the long run. Since then my feelings for him have grown and I have had romantic feelings towards him for a couple of months. I was certain he felt the same way - would flirt with me at work, his friends started being overly nice to me, he would always talk to me if i was online, told me he would miss me if i left, and all my friends were convinced he liked me too and a few people asked if we were a couple. I think I made it pretty obvious that i was interested in him and i thought we were heading in the right direction. Then a week ago I met him on a night out, he asked me for my number and we kissed. But then talking to him the next day he told me that he felt he was wrong to ask for my number as he was too busy and didn't think he would be any fun and asked if that was ok? I said it was fine though inside it hurt. I don't understand why he would say this to me, I don't know if he is really too busy or if he just doesn't feel the same way? I am really confused now as to whether he did like me at all? I don't know what to do now. I don't want to ruin our friendship but don't know what to think. Any thoughts appreciated - thanks!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
He could be incredibly shy. Or, genuinly, he just may not be that into you and is sparing you anymore hurt. Perhaps he has other priorities in his life and just feels it would be wrong to have a girlfriend at this time. Perhaps he doesn't want to get involved with someone in work in case it turns out awkward. There are, unfortunately, so many different reasons it's too hard to say what exactly he was thinking. All I can suggest now is that you just take a step back, don't linger on the pain that this has caused and make sure you socialize so you can meet other people, even of it's not romantically for a while. By all means remain friendly towards him, but don't wait around when there is a guy out there who will adore you. Good luck
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