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writes:I met this girl and I fell in love with her , it was in a different city where I live and she was coming for a visit to Denmark , we hanged together for two days , and in the end of the second day I told her that I liked her very much and she said she like me a lot too and we almost slept together and we couldn’t because she had to travel to Sweden for five days and then come back to Denmark again and come to my city , we said goodbyes after she promised she’d give me a call as soon as she’s back in Denmark and that I d show her around my city when she gets there and spent time with each other.Two days passed, and she send me an SMS telling me that whatever between us is never gonna work and that we should only be friends, I say I understand.I keep texting her asking her about casual stuff the whole time she’s there and she’d text me back…five days went by and she’s back in Denmark and then she comes to my city , where we spend time together and we turn our (thing) into a real relationship , but not before she tell me that she had one night stand in Sweden with a guy (she said she was so drunk) , and that she slept with a lot of guys whenever she is single -more than 25 guys-.Months went by and she really fall in love with me and me too…and I propose to her and then she tells me that she has one thing to tell me, she says that once she also slept several times with a guy but the first time she did it was for money and then she didn’t like it so she never took the money again.From the things I know about her for sure are those things, she is very loyal whenever she is in a relationship, honest, caring and loving.And that she went through a phase in her life where she had a very bad depression and she attempted to kill herself.My question is this…I proposed to this girl, should I carry on with it?Or is she too screwed up for a younger guy (I m 23 she’s 25) who only had one girlfriend before and only had sex with one girl ? I mean I understand not everyone is as conservative as me when it comes to sex, but when is the line between liberalism and moral decay starts? And the most important question is this: Is she a mirage material? should someone's history or past deeds effect your relationship with them if they had been nothing but honest , true , loving and caring with you ?
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 People do have their own past. As long as you can accept her past, the one you love. I'm certain that you can carry on. On the other hand, when you proposed to her, she said she has one thing to tell you and she did tell you the truth, which is quite sensitive for a girl. But you did tell you to make you you can accept it and still want to marry her.
Ask yourself how much you love her and want to be with her? A sudden madness or a whole life care? Once you know the answer, you will know what to do.
Plus spend more time to get to now her more and understand her more. I'm sure you'd prefer an honest person than a liar.
Well good luck to you!
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