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writes:I have liked this guy for quite a while now, but today I have found out that my friend likes him too, and is planning to ask him out. The thing is, she is the sort of person who goes out with a lot of guys and has sex a lot and I am a virgin who has never had a boyfriend. She has a curvy figure and long hair, I have short hair and am very small and petite, so she would be the obvious choice.I don't know whether he likes either of us, he is friends with both of us though.I have asked out guys before but they have said no.So what should I do? Shall I wait and see what happens? Or ask him what he thinks?
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reader, evil ex  +, writes (18 October 2010):
My friend and I liked the same guy once. We both chased after him. She however didn't want to be the one to ask him out because she believes that the man should always do the initiation. She is kinda old fashioned. Now, nothing wrong with that, she made a wonderful maid of honor at our wedding.... get where i'm going with this?
You can either stand by and wait, or you can stand up and take a chance.
Fyi, my hubby is super shy. I later learned he was to afraid to ask any girl out so if i hadn't taken a shot, neither my friend nor i would have ended up with him...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 You're not for certain, she would be the obvious choice. Depends on this guy's personal preference. He may have a thing for petite girls.
Now, depends on how good of friends you are with her. Technically girl code says, that we CANNOT like the same guy our friend likes much less ask him out. You know she likes him and is going to ask him out, so that would be a not so nice move for you to ask him out. Basically, you don't want to lose you friend to some guy. Guys come and go but your friends will always be there. What they don't tell you is when you get married, or you move, friends will come and go. Even if she asked him out and he rejected her, you still couldn't make your move until she moved on and found another guy to pursue. Also, you would have to ask her if it was ok. (girl code)
However, if this isn't the case. She's not really that great of a friend, she has done some bitchy things to you, then waste no time in asking this guy out for yourself.
You know your friendship better than I do, it depends on what route you go. When I was your age I valued my friends, so I would go with letting her have him. Like I said, if he rejects her then you can make your move within time. If she's the promiscuous type, chances are she will latch onto another guy soon after this one.
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