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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is really embarrassing and I don't really want to talk about it but I know I have a problem, it isn't normal.There is a guy I really like a lot, I think I love him, but there is a considerable age difference and I know it will never happen, but I do value his friendship so we do stay in touch and he doesn't know I like him.Mostly we talk over email, which is fine, there is nothing weird about the way I talk to him or the conversations we have. It is completely friendly and normal.But when I don't hear from him I get very down. And I don't think it's actually not hearing from him specifically that makes me down, I think it's just a feeling of worthlessness and loneliness. I feel really stupid even writing this so bare with me, I know I'm choosing my words weirdly.I start to binge eat, and I don't know why I think that it helps, because it doesn't really make me feel any better afterwards- it makes me feel dirty. I brush my teeth a lot afterwards and wash my hands. And sometimes, if it's available to me, I'll binge drink, I guess to try and forget.I'm overweight. I don't look it, at least my friends and family tell me I'm being silly and that I don't look it but I know that I am. My BMI puts me way in the overweight category. I know I've always weighed heavy regardless of how I look but I have gained about a stone, I know I have. But I don't really look it because I choose my cloths carefully and wear mostly baggy stuff so that people can't really see my body.And then when I do hear from him I feel kind of alright, really it's still the same only it just gets worse when I don't hear from him.I think maybe that there is something wrong with me. It happens when I spend a lot of time on my own as well. But as soon as I'm with my friends I don't really feel any need to eat.Drinking is a bit different cause that's more about having the money to buy alcohol or not.I need to know what I should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): there's no doubt about it that your feeling lonely at times. Do you notice when your around people you love and or care about your problems seem to be on hold at least until your alone. i think being around people is your security blanket.But maybe these steps will help you along the way of great physical and mental well being
1. When you feel the need to binge eat or drink, call one of your closest friends and just tell them whats going on, hearing someone you loves voice should help.
2. When you get emotional because your guy didnt reply back yet, go out and do something fun or watch a movie or take a nice hot bath and listen to music and think about the positive things.
i know it might be hard but you have to think about something else dont let the negatives affect your state of mind. i hope that helped
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