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writes:I've had a relationship with this guy since I was 15. The relation lasted for 8 years...1998-2006. Since, he was too dominating on me and I wanted to make myself I moved out of the relationship in 2006. I tried dating other people in 2006-2007 and realized I still love him so I asked him out in 2008. But by then he was already seeing someone else.I know he's broken up with her a year back, but he and his family are not interested in me. I can't get him out of my head since, he's been there for 10 years now.Please advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): I would agree with the other answers on here. Read other peoples problems, I just posted mine about how it is hard to get over someone you loved. All I can say is its definitely a one day at a time thing. Don't think about tomorrow just think about yourself alone. Remember we all used to be single and happy at one point in our lives. Just think of the time you get to yourself as self-reflecting and improve yourself even more from what you have learned. I feel you on the missing the love, I still love my ex and I will always love him but knowing that someone isn't a part of your life anymore means you need to cut them out for good. Nostalgia was meant to motivate us to get a replacement for the happyness we once had not repeat the same love that caused pain.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 he was not what you needed, but you still love him. i am sure that dumping him was painfull for him and now he is blocking all contact which is the logical thing to do to get over someone. clearly you are finding it hard to move on but try to look at the bigger picture-
if you were suited you wouldn't have wanted to break up, you are experiencing nostalgia, and it takes a long time to get over someone you loved.
i doubt there is hope for a reconcilliation with him so try to move on
the best thing you can do is get hobbies, keep busy, and try to focus on what you didn't like about him.
avoid feelings of love in your chest followed by some idealised fantasy of him, by feeling that love and then alloting it to yourself.
when you want to feel love, let it happen and then think of yourself and no-one else for a moment to give your self some postive mental boost. this is a way of making yourself feel good.
it might sound silly but feeling love and then associating it with yourself can improve your self esteem and make you feel more postive.
its also good to just feel love and imagine it going out to the world- like a little beacon of positivity.
this might all sound ridiculous but it worked for me but took a little effort
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