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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three months now, but lately we've been having problems. Back when we first kissed, I was officially seeing someone else, so in effect I cheated on my last bf. I broke up with him straight away though, and have been in this relationship since. At first, I wondered if the circumstances would bother my current bf, like if he would think I would do the same to him. However, I explained the situation at the time, he didn't seem too bothered and so here we are three months later.I'm living with a guy that I get along really well with. He knows my bf, they'd actually hang around together now and again. We've been studying for exams and things lately so we haven't really had much time for going out/seeing eachother, and we probably won't for another few weeks. I've been hanging around with my housemate a good bit, having a laugh and stuff, just at home mostly and through the other person we live with, my boyfriend has gotten it into his head that there is something going on.I'd like to stress now that I have no sexual feelings for my housemate whatsoever. We just have similar interests and personalities, and get along extremely well. I've told my bf this and to be honest I can understand why he'd be worried, considering my past. I just don't know what I can do to put his mind at ease. I really really like him and I don't want to mess things up. Short of moving out (and possibly losing a very good friend) I'm not sure what else to do, or even if he'll ever trust me. I'm terrified that becaue we're not going to see eachother for the next while things will get worse. I don't want to lose him.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (11 May 2009):
 perhaps this is a cry for attention. perhaps you should try and make time for your bf and show him that you value him more than your friend. i can see the whole idea and yes it may give him doubts reassure him and spend every spare moment with him to show him that hes is no 1. try and not talk about your friend too much as this will add fuel to the fire. you shouldnt have to move for him to trust you. if he doesnt trust you then their really isnt a relationship. unles you both can put the past beside. just try and give him the attention he needs talk to him about things.. hope this helps good luck
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