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writes:My gf and I have been happily dating for nearly a year. Recently though, she's been out of sorts, crabby, non-loving, and generally miserable. She has self admittedly never been in a good healthy long-term relationship, and in fact, her life has always been rather dysfunctional. As such, dysfunction is what she is used to, and this is what she is not getting with her relationship with me. She's miserable because she is lacks the dysfunction that she had been used to for so many years... She knows this sounds crazy, but can't seem to pull herself out of it. I love her but this is breaking my heart. Should I hang around and hope she pulls out of it, or take this as a sign and move on???
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Well have you suggested any type of therapy so she may be able to at least recognize her own symptoms?
I am gonna be blunt here.
You have to realize that you arent getting any younger. If your girfriend has these unresolved issues and heas never tried to get help for them, you can do one of two things.
1) Urge her to get into therapy, even couples counseling. Actually sometimes things do improve. It doesent work for everybody, but it sounds like she needs some intensive counseling.
2) If she refuses, or if you feel that is not the way to go, short of suffering in a relationship where you ae not happy, you may have to reconsider the arrangement.
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