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writes:I really like this guy I work with but I can't tell if he really likes me. I'm pretty sure most days but then my insecurity about my looks makes me doubt it. He is always helping me and talking to me we laugh and joke for hours and he always seems to be where I am. We message on facebook on and off, and one time he joked about having my number which he doesn't. He is the sweetest guy and he makes me laugh, he even laughs at my dumb jokes, but he is much more attractive than I am and I'm scared I'm getting feelings for somebody who doesn't feel the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): You know with people at work it is often hard to tell. I just found out that my manager who I have worked with for a year and a half has had a serious crush on me. Did I know? I had no clue! When my co workers told me a few weeks ago I was shocked and didn't believe them. I still can't wrap my head around it. But when several other co workers started coming to the forefront about their knowledge about it, it seemed more believable and started sinking in more. The co worker relationship is a complicated one which is why it doesn't surprise me that people you work with may have feelings they conceal for very long periods of time. With that said, work has never posed a barrier for a man to pursue a woman. When a man likes you, nothing will stop him from pursuing you. Like with my manager, I do not think that work stopped him from pursuing me...the fact that I was in a relationship for the large part of my employment there and that he is about 15 years older than me and probably thinks he has no chance, has probably played a bigger role in his hesitance to let me know. I do think this guy likes you. He may feel the same way you do, unsure about how you feel. Why don't you suggest giving him your number, for "work related" reasons. You should be in touch with your co workers anyway in case of anything. You are all a team. See what he does with having your number. Maybe he will get more personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2014): He definitely likes you, he just might not like you the way you like him. It's possible he may be asking himself the same thing about you. Best way to find out is to confess your feelings, but you have to be prepared for the chance that he doesn't share them. Don't wait for him to make things clear for you because if he does like you, he could be waiting for the same thing.
I did and she didn't so I moved on.
Don't think about your looks. If a guy likes you, be happy with that. I like a girl who thinks she is not attractive. To me, she is the most beautiful person I've ever seen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): This is a tricky one because it could be that he likes you or maybe he just wants to be friends.
If it were me, I'd be inclined to think there might be something with the way he joked about your number, but I wouldn't push the issue of dating until you're certain because it could spoil a friendship if you get on so well. If he persists and things feel more serious then I would say yes, but just don't jump into anything and risk what you already have.
I'm sorry I couldn't give you a solid answer, but it's difficult to answer without seeing the behaviour, so I hope what I told you has helped. Good luck
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