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writes:There's this guy I know. I've know him for about 3 years, but we haven't really been close friends. But being around him these 3 years has made me grow really fond him of to the point where i'm pretty sure I'm in love with him. The only problem is he's straight and he just left for a college in Colorado last fall. The first time I actually realized he could never love me, I sobbed for hours on end. I think of him almost every day and I can't get him off my head. A couple months ago I was sure I was over him but now I'm not so sure. I feel like I should tell him how I feel, but what does it matter. He would never feel the same way about me and I would only get hurt. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (6 April 2010):
If you are/were that close to him, shouldn't you have told him BEFORE he left for school in Colorado?
Is there a chance that he's coming back (to where you are)?
The same thing happened to me when I was in school. Made friends with and eventually developed a crush on my best friend. He then went off to school at UW. I never told him I was GAY but I did let him now that I cared about him VERY VERY MUCH. He's still my best friend. He got married, had kids and lives in a different state, but we still talk about every three or four months.
Think about the kind of relationship you would like to have/maintain with this person and then tell him how you feel &/or come out to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): I wish I could give you a big hug!!! It is painful, and you will think about the "what ifs" for a long time, but one day you are going to meet someone else who will make you forget this crush!!! Honestly you will think of him on occassion, but with warm fuzzies and not sadness!
Xoxoxox
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