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writes: I am 33 yrs old, never married no kids. dating a guy for 1 year (30yrs) divorced with 4 year old. , very sweet guy, kind, generous, just my ideal husband. We were friends before we started dating so i have known him for about 2 years before that. He cares a gret deal about me. I have caught him in lies several times . Mostly he lies by omission. Latest saga, he told me he had a my space account and i felt the need to snoop and looked at his email and saw he had received a notiication of receiveing an email from some females. well i snooped further becuase he has told me his password and actually saw that he was talking to some pple on my space, which i was okay with. WHat i was not okay with was i saw he had offered his phone number to one of them and i knew they had talked a couple of times. I confronted him about it, not saying that i had read his email, and he was very okay with opening his my space account and letting me look at it, obviously he failed to mention that he had gone as far as giving his ph #. all othe messages were purely innocent, though he did not mention that he was in a relationship, which hurt me too. anyway, i read through his messages and showed him where he had given the phone number, and he said it was innocent and he had no other intentions.Part of me believes him, but i start having doubts about him coz of that. Bottom line is i know he truly loves me and i love him and he is such a nice guy. I have notime for games and i have asked what his inentions are and he says that he wants to settle. needless to say i told him that i can not have a relationship with someone who will maintain a myspace and i know he has not logged in since, "i checked". We are sexually intimate and he aims to make sure im am sexualy satisfied, but anyway i have been wondering if i should stop that for now so i can get my bearings right and see if he really is serious about me or he will feel the need t o get sex elsewhere, which ofcourse i have to end the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): Wait sec, by failing to mention something, that doesn't make him a liar. It just means you didn't ask him about it, thus he didn't answer it. If my gf asked me if I email other women, I will say yes. If she finds out I also gave them my phone number, then proceed to accuse me of lying to her, I would rightfully defend myself that she never asked me if I gave me number out to anyone. Which is true that she never asked.
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reader, tacobell5 +, writes (26 July 2006):
first off, i don't think that you should have gone on to his myspace account because that's private information, and it wasn't technically your place to do that. but since you did, and that's over and done with, the fact that he very willingly opened up his account for you, and allowed you to read everything, no questions asked, is a sign that he doesn't seem to be doing anything suspicious. because if he was, he wouldn't have given you his password, nor let you look at what he was writing. if he had something to hide, believe me, he'd change his password and not let you read what he had to say. so i wouldn't be too worried about it.
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