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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months, but recently I've been pushing to see him more.I know i was wrong for being so bossy. He now seems to be backing off.I've hardly seen him and he doesn't put x at the end of texts. He also doesn't reply like he used to, to my messages.Before he would reply the same day. Now it's a couple of days, and thats only if i ask him to reply to me. At the moment he's got 2 weeks off work and i have not pushed for anything from him.I feel like he's going to dump me, and I'm already feeling heartbroken.I never thought i could love someone so much like this. I've asked him if things are good between us, but he hasnt replied.I don't want to keep pestering him, but I'm down and I miss him so much.What can i say to him, to ask him to open up and talk to me ?Thanks for any suggestions
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 December 2015):
 OP I'm sorry but if after only 4 months he's blanking you it's over. He's not as into you as you are into him.
I had a guy do this to me once over the holidays about the same way.
On NYE I went to his house thinking he would be home alone and he was having a huge party.
I'm sorry. Time to let this one go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): im the op , he doesnt have a wife and kids he has never asked me for money
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): To the writer i would give him a little time then message him again , ask him to reply to your question that day he has 24 hours so no excuse really. Then if he doesn't reply you need to think do you want to wait and wait for a reply he might not give you or tell him if you do not hear from him that day then your taking it as there is an issue and if hes not willing to talk to you then maybe its time to move on. Easier said than done i know . Good luck
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reader, Denizen +, writes (30 December 2015):
 I think you need to back off entirely for awhile and then try again. It sounds like he isn't interested at the moment.
Also as a matter of courtesy I would be grateful if you could use punctuation and capital letters if you write in again. It's a convention we have all agreed to use, and that includes you. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): The best text you could send him is one saying "Im finding this relationship unfulfilling and as it is going nowhere I am ending it now."
Then block him.
But if you enjoy hearing him splutter and fast talk you into how he wants you now and again but hes just been busy and lifes hard , moneys tight and he needs a coupla grand to borrow from you but never return because he has to take his missus and sick daughter on holiday, then take the call.
Dump him.
You have nothing to lose.
Decisive action pays off...chances are you will meet someone new and exciting very soon.
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