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writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up nearly four months back after being together nearly two years. He is moving away and ended it saying he wasn't happy anymore, didn't feel the same as he didn't see a future. Anyway since then we have remained friends, for new year he wrote I wish you the best for the future because u deserve it, your a very special girl. We never talked about splitting up, is it become hes moving away? We could still make it work. Confused with how he is feeling? He wouldn't give us a second chance, he just said that getting back together for a bit won't change things, only make things worse and harder for us. Any views?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): I'm going through a similar situation and its not easy. At least you are still friends, though not like you want. I've not heard from my girl in a few weeks. Some advice here is 'forget about that person' - 'leave it' -'move on'. Not easy. Good luck. You're not alone!
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reader, SilverSong86  +, writes (4 February 2008):
Hey, love. I know that when you ask these kinds of questions here, you want to hear that there's hope and that he'll come back to you. I know I've done it... but the truth is that, at least for now, he doesn't want this relationship. That isn't to say that he may not change his mind one day, but for now you need to give him wings and let him go. Even if you could convince him to come back, his heart wouldn't be in it right now and you wouldn't have a fulfilling relationship. My boyfriend decided that he wanted to take a break and work on our friendship a few hours ago, so trust me you have my sympathy and I know exactly how you feel. The thing I learned with my last ex though (the one before the current break one) is that if you force it, you will most likely lose it. Love has to be a free choice. My advice is to give him some time alone. Don't stress about the future just let things play out. Concentrate on yourself, do the things that make you happy, really love yourself and let yourself heal. Love will come to you with time. If not with him than with one who won't leave you. If you want to talk/commiserate since we are both in the same place, feel free to send me a message. Best of luck with your new life. Look at it as an adventure and a new beginning rather than an ending. Much love!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 It looks like it is winter season in your place. He is cold towards you . You could just hunker or dig in or you can go to another place where it is summer.
If you love him, you will dig in and ride out the cold winter.Maybe , you need to call a time out and leave him to sort out his bearings. His compass is temporary out of order and not functioning.
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