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female
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30-35,
*amanthamm
writes:Dear cupid,I need help.. i feel like im losing my mind. I cant eat, sleep, or go ten minutes without balling... about 8 months ago i met a guy. And we dated and just a few days later he left. He said it was because he was insuccure... but this christmas our familys spend it together and me and him reconected and began talking again... we agrees we would be together one day again soon..and i belive him... but now for the first time he wont talk to me.. am i being crazy.. or should i be concerned:( please help me. Thank you beautiful people.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (29 December 2012):
 Oh my Sam,
You sound like a heroine in a Victorian romance. Proving your undying love by laying sink in bed for months. All because of a word he said. I'm sure the image is all very attractive to you , but, it doesn't work that way in real life.
What evidence do you have that he is sincere? to this point you have had 2 very short term flings with him. That does not constitute a "love of your life". There are many possible explanations for his behavior. For some reason he cannot stay connected to you for more than a few days. You seem to connect to him very quickly. You have hung all your hopes to his star in less than a week. I don't see a happy ending here.
You need to build a real long term relationship before you suffer so much for a guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): I wouldnt believe it, honestly. You are either together or you aren't thete are no grey areas. Believe me, I had to learn the hard way, my ex fiance and I had broken up but wanted to "work toward being together again" Basically while I spent my time trying to be perfect toward him and fill his every need with grace, love, kindness and faithfulness, he was talking sexually and with other women in general about dating them. To me thats not working on it thats having your cake and your ice cream in the side. If he isn't even talking to you how is that building a future or making a plan to be together? Its not. Unless some kind of action is being taken, steps to put the relationship in motion, you my dear are single and he was spoon feeding you sugar coated bs, and you ate all of it. Meet someone that will persue a relationship with you. Dont start it with a problem Good luck.
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