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writes: my husband and i are about to recieve our decree absolute we have recieve our nisi. he is convince that i am having an affair with my brother in law. this really is not true we are good mates yes but are well aware of the consiquences of an affair and remain friends as a result. my husband now refuses to co-operate with the final stages of the divorce on these grounds. how do i convince him that i am not doing this my future lies with my getting on with my life as a single parent. why is he doing this to me. he is making my life a living hell. i know he is hurt and i am too but i am at my wits end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2005): I would think if he's accusing you of having an affair, he better have some "iron clad, undeniable" proof..not just suspicion as that won't stand up in divorce court. It's time to step out of this, on the personal level. Let you attorneys handle this. He's likely just finding another way to adversely affect your life in a painful way. He still wants some power over you...and doesn't that really does say, what kind of guy he is? You certainly will be better off without him. I would just ignore him and carry on with the divorce, by not allowing it to bug you-you are in effect..taking that power away from him, then. Let it go-he's not worth the stress and worry, hun. Instead go the professional route and talk further to your attorney and see if there is some way around the finalization of your divorce. For the sake of your child, you just have to deal with this in the best, most mature fashion that you can. Don't stoop to his level, dear. Just look at the big picture here, you are the one with your child. You have so much more than he ever could have...appreciate that and good luck!
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