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writes: i need help i broke up with my ex of 6 years he moved out 4 months ago and i still want him back and i still cry i dont know what to do.first off we have a baby together i try to ignore him but i cant cause she wants her dad i try to just let her talk to him and i will have no contact but he gets mad when i do this and finds his way back and i think things or good we dont get back togther but he starts being all nice till i start being nice back he backs off again im so confused he tells me he loves me he calls to tell me this and that he miss me but he wont come back home i hardly ever see him he says hes nit seeing anyone i dont beleive him thought he gets mad if i talk to people i dont understand can someone plz tell me what this means
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (6 May 2006):
 I don't know how old your baby is but you sound extremely emotional right now and that could easily be down to the hormones or some post natal depression here. If you are still crying 4 months down the line then you should go and talk to your doctor or health visitor.
You should also set up proper arrangements for him for access to your baby as it could get really awful otherwise and you need a break as well from time to time. Do you get help with your baby from your family or friends?
Your ex needs to take his responsibility for his baby and you should let him even if it's a few hours of him taking the baby out for a walk in the pram. Does he support you financially at all?
The calls telling you that he misses you and loves you are giving you all mixed messages and that is just not right.
He could be staying away as you are emotionally upset all the time and perhaps he thinks that if moves back in this will never alter.
Get yourself strong and start to think about your life without this man as it could all come around right for you in the end if he sees that you are coping without him. Do not be someone who takes everything on alone, let him help both emotionally and financially as you are both parents and that responsibility remains with you for life.
I can understand that your ex is getting mad as he wants contact with his child and that is only natural if he loves her. You need to work out some access time for him.
First of all see your doctor or health visitor and you can get free advice through CAB (Citizens Advice Bureau) so find out about your rights for all manner of help that you can get and then you will start to feel strong again and you need to do this both for yourself and your baby.
I am always around and so are all the other agony aunts so don't be afraid to ask for more help OK.
Take care of you and your baby.
BFN
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