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He will not stop telling lies. He says he did it so as not to hurt me. What am I supposed to do in this situation?

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Question - (6 October 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 7 October 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I was in a relationship with a guy, we brokeup but gave it another shot and saw some changes in him, don't know if he was pretending or really changed his ways but I was happy and had hopes.

His biggest issue was lying.

I chased him to stop lying and start being honest for a healthy bond but he couldn't stop lying.

He lied about his past and one night stands for 3 whole years of dating.

If he didn't want to to discuss it, he could have told me. It's just his past, it's ok! I would have got off his back.

But he kept lying and making storied even after we brokeup n i was in tears, that guy didn't give up lying.

He said the only reason he lied was not to hurt me or lose the rel. I brokeup thinking a guy who can't even speak the truth n lied to me all this time, how can I trust him even with anything he says or said! Then I thought that is something related to his past, I don't know if he is still lying or not but is it ok to end the rel on basis of something that happened in his past?

The issue is his lying.. reasons for lying.. I don't want to believe.. when I was ready to hear the truth and gave him many chances, he kept on making stories thinking "i'll be hurt and end the relationship", a lame reason.

I don't know.. he promised to be honest always and won't lie ever if am ready to handle the truth but I have heard the same promise so many times.. he lies n then justify it by saying why hurt you with something irrelevant?

What am I supposed to do? Whatever it is, makes it hard to believe a word he says.

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (7 October 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntYou are always going to question whether he is telling you the truth, and from my experience, these men who lie never change. I would stop seeing him and find someone you can trust.

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