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writes: If you were talking to your significant other on the phone and asked them what they were doing and they said just playing around on the computer and they said they went on myspace for the first time....would you be concerned?I said to my b/f, trying to look up people in a playful way and he said i didn't get to do much b/c they want you to sign up and i didn't want to be bothered. Still, if you are going on myspace, isnt that what his intent was?I said again but you wanted to look up people? he didn't really answer.. he just said well there has got to be something interesting on that site since so many people are on it. There have probably been so many threads on this..and now that my b/f got his first lap top..i am going through it..Advice please
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): Hahaha... That's like those squishy white things that can be found in the freezers of Japanese or Chinese grocery stores. You know those squishy white things with paste inside? They remind me of Mamegoma... 8]
ANYWAY... Yeah MySpace... Yup. 8]
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reader, stina  +, writes (18 December 2006):
 my avatar is mamegoma! 3 but it's so cute that i want to eat it, so maybe it could be considered a sushi bit... ;P
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): tinklinglaughter, that is a funky name. 83 I also like Stina's new avatar. Is that a seal or a sushi bit? 8]
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reader, tinklinglaughter  +, writes (17 December 2006):
 Lol! Martini, your post made me laugh! oh, your reply does seem helpful anyway.. :p
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reader, stina +, writes (17 December 2006):
Hi Anon,
My husband and I (and pretty much all of my friends, too) have myspace accounts. I don't think that there's anything wrong with having, pesonally. It's nice to have to keep in touch with friends and family that don't live in the area. But then again, I don't know your guy. If you feel you have reason to not trust him, I think *that* is what you should focus on.
You know, there is a feature to make an account private - so the only people who can view your page are the people you've listed as friends. There's also an option to only let people who know your last name or email ask to be your friend.
But I suggest not looking through his stuff in the future, either. Because honestly you speak of not trusting him, but look at what you're doing. Unless he's given you permission to look through his things, then it sounds like he's the one who should have the trust issues...
You two really need to have a long talk about what the issues really are here and you both need to figure out how you can trust one another. Because something's not right if you don't feel comfortable with him looking at others' profiles.
Take care.
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reader, scared16 +, writes (17 December 2006):
 he may just b going on there 2 talk 2 people. y do u hav 2 suspicious? if he woz going on sex chatrooms or something then fair enuf! but my space? absolutely nuthin 2 worry about x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Let's give him the benefit of the doubt (I hate that saying btw). So aside from that, I think you might be over-analysing him going on MySpace. That's like saying that every other site like Friendster, AsianAvenue, YouTube, Blogger, etc that he joins will make you feel he's solely joining those sites to look for new gf's.
[ponders]
That's like saying each and every single person who joins those sites are looking for that one thing.
The thing is, don't go through his computer, unless he allows you to. It's fine to doubt someone, but to express mistrust can cause strife in any relationship. Questioning is fine, it shows you are worried you have competition, but if you pry into his life without him volunteering to you, it may seem you're trying to control the things he does.
A lot of the time through CLOSED COMMUNICATION (as opposed to open communication), Person A is worried how Person B feels, so s/he keeps things from Person B. Person B finds out, and goes into a fit and cries over Person A's possible cheating. Person A tries to explain to Person B that s/he was being curious, but not going after anything. Person B goes to DC and vents.
I'm not really helping am I? [sobs]
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reader, Adrian.Dion +, writes (16 December 2006):
 Interesting,...
I was on MySpace while I was with my gf & she didn't care for it either. Like seriously. I even had my page tagged w/ the 'In a Relationship' as my status.
I didn't associate MySpace as a site to hook-up, intimately, with people...I percieved it to be more like a mix of Classmates & here. Nevertheless, it must be threatening in some type of way. In fairness, I cxl'd mine.
Do you also think that being on the site is demonstrating unfaithfulness to you? Or may lead to it?
With it being so debatable of what is considered cheating, it seems like this, just like 'suspicious' emails, voicemails, & text msgs should have direct connection to some other form of deception. Like being 'missing' for a day or more, not answering your calls, etc...
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