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writes: I have been dating someone a couple of times a month for the past three months now. He said he wanted a girlfriend and seemed to be serious about it. Now he is saying he is too busy with his work and other responsibilities and would rather just have a casual relationship. But by now he has my heart and I am hurt. What's the best way to deal with a situation such as this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2005): This kind of situation really stinks- trust me I know. The best answer I can give is to distance yourself a bit. Don't call him, keep yourself busy, go out with friends, etc. If he calls you, talk to him, get together with him only if he initiates it. Guys, especially in the beginning, need to have a little of that "catch" going on. If your too available, too easy, they get bored. Unless you just want to forget about all the game playing and wait for a guy who is more mature and will treat you with respect and not make you think this way. I always know when a man truly loves me because I never have to go searching for advice and answers...when I have to start doing that I know something isn't right. good luck! take care of your heart-
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2005): Ive been in the same situation myself..you cant go back to how it would have been at the beginning..if youve been serious together then that is the way you want and like the relationship you cant just step backwards and kinda start again as if you never had the serious relationship in the first place.
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reader, pops +, writes (27 October 2005):
Find someone else. Really. He doesn't know what he wants, and obviously is having second thoughts about you. You have a right to feel hurt. You both tried, but it is not working out for him. End it. Then maybe meet with him and ask him how you failed him. You may not agree with him, but at least try to get his perspective. Then move on. Try to learn from this disaster, so you don't have to repeat it. My heart goes out to you. But know that you will pull through this.
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