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writes:Well... my boyfriend and I been dating close to a year, never been perfect, he sucks in bed, but I have fallen in love regardles. For some reason, can't explain it why, he casues for me to withdraw, I like him and want to be cheerful and happy around him but he is like a grizzly. He numerously rejected to sleep over at my place because of his cat... so that the cat does nots stay by itself, or he would come to my home and spend time answering text messages to some old girlfriends, which I did not like. I have two children, and I keept a distance between them and the boyfriend, it was my boy's birthday and he totally ignored it... however on the other hand he brags about the fact that he is still sending card and gift to the previous girlfrind's kid (they broke up 4 years ago...). Am a succesful professional, managing all aspects of my life... and he indicated that I have no backbone, pretty hurtfull comment. I just get the feelign that he did not really try to make this work. He wasn't making me feel good... So I broke up... I don't think that I was ready to let it go and now am hurt. would it be a good idea to pursue him into coming back into my life?
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (24 July 2009):
If you have all these things going for you why do want to be with someone you can't even be yourself with. Girlfriend get a grip and move on you haven't to many great qualities that anyone would want to be around, just the simple fact he is constantly disrespecting you by texting ex-girlfriends and sending kids gift's. It sounds to me like is just using you for whatever you have. At least you have enough sense to keep him away from your children girl get a back bone if you don't have one and tell that loser where to get off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): A good site for you to vist, if your serious about making the relationship work, is theExback.com
On the other hand, no one can make you feel good, but you. Be happy with yourself first. Some men who are cheating or want to get out of a relationship, but don't know how, have a way of making you feel lowly, unhappy and always challenges you with the your not good enough routine. When it's usually quite the opposite; you are too good for him. Some men are men and handle things manly and some men are BOYS are need to grow. That's how you can separate the two.
Women have an intiution and sometimes fail to use it.... if you believe that it is time to move forward in your life, then do it. And if your led to try again, then be prepare yourself - start doing things differently in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): No way. You made your decision when you broke up with him, and from what I read your were right. Break ups are always hard and make us doubt, but trust your insctinct. This wasn't the man you felt could make you happy, is he the person you want to expose your children?
Trust your self, you'll find someone who does fullfill you and can have a happy life by your side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): dont be a foolish woman this jerk is out for what he can get and does not care how much he tramples on you
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reader, kerry169  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 no.
he sound like he is hung up in the past and u have to think why u split in the first place.
im glad to hear you keep ur kids life away from ur personal life that is 1 of the best things i have heard in a long time.
i say there are plenty more fellas out there just keep looking
:) hope i helped
xx
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reader, boo22 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 No no no, a thousand times no!! What for exactly hunny? So you can be absolutely sure hes no good? How much longer will you need? You should be really happy after 12 months. These are the happy times. Have you ever had a good relationship? Something tells me no, and you just think you should settle for this.
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (24 July 2009):
Time will heel. If he wasn't making you feel good, then why would you want to pursue something with him? You're just expieriencing the mourning process of a breaking up.
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