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writes: Please help me...I have been seeing a guy I have known for years for the past 3 months. He has been out of his marriage for just under a year and they have 2 children. His ex cheated on him on numerous occasions and the love has gone. He asked me out ad we have had such lovely times together and have booked to go abroad next week. He has always been cagey about people finding out about us due to his situation and his ex not coping with the kids on her own. I have been patient but suddenly last weekend I think too many people have asked him questions about me and he has not contacted me for 5 days now, I text him but no reply. What should I do. I feel his behaviour is quite mean. I have time all booked off work and we were both excited about oing away together.. and now nothing. I dont want to chase him but I feel like a fool. Please help me. Im not a child were both mid thirties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have told him to go on holiday on his own and sort his head out. He says he is nuts about me but his own head is nuts at the moment. Time will tell I guess.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Then I guess the reason he's acting so cagey is because he wants to keep all his options open, he wants to appear unattached. I think maybe you are heading for heartbreak if you try to pursue this guy. I'd pack those bags if I were you and enjoy your holiday, you may meet some interesting people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo - they have definately split up and he has bought a new house. He has the children twice in the week and every second weekend. We live in a small town and everyone knows everyones business. He has been to see about a divorce but a few weeks ago she tried to give him the children full time as she was struggling. My bags are not packed to go on holiday.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 June 2009):
Where does he live? Does he still live with his wife and kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): this guy is having you - he is still very very married. therefore you remained his secret. do not be fooled by him replying to your pestering texts.
bottom line- you do not have a problem sleeping with this married man, if he is doing it with you, he will do it to you. stop being such a fool. he has 2 kids, still married. he ran a mile to hide when his lies and affair was discovered. and yes, he is having an affair - with you. from your words you seem so pissed that you would not be able to go on holiday together. you are really naive my dear. you are not a child, put off the holiday until you know about his marriage. but you and i both know you have your bags ready and will go with him, no questions asked. you have been sleeping with him for 3 months, and all he can say is you are "lovely". if you don't hear warning bells already, you are not going to at all. you will learn the hard way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so he has finally text me to say he is sorry, his life has been off the rails so far this year and he really does think I am lovely??? ... now what?x
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reader, holikdad +, writes (18 June 2009):
It sounds like he's still married. If he's divorced then why would he care what his ex thinks about a new relationship?
It really sounds like he's been lying to you. It's probably best to move on and find an honest respectable and unmarried guy.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (18 June 2009):
 Looks like the trip has become a "get over him" vacation getaway. I'm sorry that this happened to you. However, I don't agree with secret relationships. It's always a bad sign when you have to be kept under wraps; it's often a sign that the other person isn't as single as they say they are. The fade out he pulled is most likely another big clue.Since he can't be bothered to even call you and tell you it's off, do yourself a favor and forget about him. Have fun on your vacation, drink margaritas and dance until dawn. It will help you forget about that loser. And if he tries calling you in a few weeks, claiming some type of emergency, remember that no emergency that long prevented him from picking up the phone.Good luck.
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