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writes: I am really having a hard time lately. My boyfriend of one year and 2 months and I were going to move in together. right before moving in he told me he didn't think he loved me anymore. After some snooping and living together for the first week, i found out he had been sleeping with his old roomate for 4 months. HE is in love with this other girl. She moved back to where she is from, a 2 hour plane ride away. We lived together for the first month and tried to work on things. up until he decided to go and see her, things were looking up and at one point he said he wanted to get back together and that he was starting to feel things for me again. He said before he went away to see her that he wouldn't sleep with her and that he would tell her not to expect much... well after seeing her, he confirmied his feelings and now loves her. she came down for a week these past few days and it has been killing me. they're sort of together. I still want to be with him and I'm not sure if I'm holding out for a lost cause. Am i being stupid waiting and hoping he will return to me? We slept together a week ago even though they were technically together and he told me when we broke up that things between them probably won't work out because of distance, should i give up on him as he loves someone else, or should i try to work on it? how can i ever hope to get him back? they were close friends and he says his friends like her more and that she's more personable with them, I just love him and really want to be with him in the end... is there hope? If i take time away from the situation do you think that he might want to get back with me?
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reader, haether +, writes (5 June 2006):
haether is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the replies guys. Right now things are pretty hopeless. is still love the guy so i don't think i can move on to someone new for a long time. All i have are small homes like the fact that he said 'things probably won't work out between me and ___, i don't know what's going on yet' and the fact that even though i moved out he still hasn't asked for the key to the apartment. My wish is that if i stay away for a while he'll realize what he threw away but that could never happen since she's like one of his best friends
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Walk away. You haven't let him know what it feels like to be without you. Cut all contact and let him go. You're getting strung along and its not healthy for you. He is having his cake and eating lots of it. You will only hurt yourself in the long run. Yes you, remember YOU. That was the person you were before this guy. Find that person again then get back to living.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): Hi There,
First of all i am sorry to hear this about your boyfriend. If it was me I would leave it. Obviously your boyfriend has real feelings for this girl if he was prepared to give up a very serious relationship with you for her. I think you should get on with your life and enjoy it. I dont think it is going to change things between you and your boyfriend if you keep running after him, let him and if he is meant to be with you he will come back to you.
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