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writes:ok here goes!!just before easter my best friend introduced me to this absolutely amazing guy who was into exactly the same things as me. she was going out with his best friend who i knew from auditions at drama schools, and coincidently, the guy she introduced me to was in the same class as some of my friends who were at his drama school. i thought this was total fate and so did he. we had an amazing night and everything was perfect. the next day the 4 of us went out and everything seemed to be going amazing. a few weeks later me and the guy were going out officially and i was happier than i had ever been.the feelings got really strong really quickly, and i met the parents and so did he. it was so perfect and we were so happy. then, around 3 months into the relationship he decided he was putting me before school and he just couldnt afford to do that coz school was too important n he decided to "have a break" from us and put things on hold. obviously i was gutted with this but me being stupid, agreed coz i would rather have had this than not to be with him at all. a few weeks into the break, surprise surprise he called it all off and said he was too busy to be in a relationship at drama school and his feelings for me hadnt changed, he just couldnt handle the two things at once. i was gutted but had to deal with it.then it came to my best friends 21st which i knew he'd be it. i showed up and it was brilliant, he told me he missed me, and reassured me his feelings hadnt gone and we ended up kissing and he told me he wanted me to stay at his. i said i would but didnt want to leave yet so we went to another club with everyone else. when we got there, he started being really off with me and then left all of a sudden, blaming it on a headache. my best friend then decided to tell me i couldnt stay at hers (for no reason) so i was stuck. i literally had nowhere to go. it was too late for me to get the train, and too far for me to get a taxi. soooooo i asked my friend if i could stay on the floor at his. he said yes and off we went. this resulted in me nearly getting raped in his flat by him. and if he hadn't have got sick when he did, it definately would have happened. as i say he got sick and ran to the toilet so i got my stuff and bolted out of his flat. all this time my ex had been ringing me asking me to go to his. he told me to meet him at the pub where the party had started so i did... and he wasnt there. i waited an hour in a town i didnt know at 2.30 in the morning trying to ring him and my best friend with no luck. finally i got through to her, and all she told me to do was go to his. now i would have thought a best friend would have helped me out...guess not! i went to his and he finally opened the door, claiming he couldnt remember sending me the txt coz he was so drunk. as u can guess, one thing led to another and we slept together which was amazing. it made me so happy. then in the morning he had to go to work, so when i went down on my own when he'd left, i got a shock. there were pictures of him and his ex up on the fireplace, her cardigan was there, my shower stuff had been being used and her hairdryer was there. i felt like such a fool so i left him a note just making sure he knew i felt silly. but nothing nasty was said because i love(d) him too much to be mean.that evening i got a phone call off my "best friend" and she down right accused me of sleeping with this guy who had tried to rape me. and then going to my ex's and sleeping with him. and what was worse, she had told my ex. it turns out, the guy had told her i slept with him, probably because he was angry that i just upped and left. and i had my ex's best friend ("best friend"'s boyfriend) calling me every name under the sun. i was mortified, ive never been so upset in all my life.now my ex wont talk to me, my "best friend" is trying to apologise coz she knows its not true. i've tried to explain things to him, but he's just not been in touch. what do i do?!?! help please! he's my 1st love and i know i cant ever be with him again, but it hurts so much to think that he's gonna think of me like this now rather than all the nice memories we have!sorry it's so long!!
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 I'll like to know how many males the story involves.Your 'first love' is also your 'ex' or not?I am rather confused by all the people involved.Maybe you will be sweet and follow up your story with a shorter version where I can read who is who and then I will be able to reply. I would really like to do that, my dear young girl, I assure you. I have two married daughters and two adopted girls of 11 and 9: I am very fond of girls. We teach all we can about sex and relationship to our youngsters also.Awaiting your follow upuncle Frankuncle Frank
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 First off, I am very sorry about what your two friends did to you. It was totally wrong for your male friend to try to take advantage of you and very cold of your best friend to run her mouth like that. They both owe you an apology at least, and I would stay away from your male friend as good guys don't do those kinds of things.
But I don't understand why you care that your ex is mad. He's not in a relationship with you and you don't owe him fidelity. It was a hookup, and seeing as he has another woman staying with him, he needs to get over himself!
Let him cool down, and then your best friend needs to explain to him what happened with the other guy. If he doesn't get over it, that's HIS problem.
Good luck.
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