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*cvd75
writes:i am 34 and my husband 29... we have 2 kids and i have an older one from a previous marriage... back in 2002 he had an affair.. to this day he justifies it saying that she is a great person and that she is better than me in every way... i have asked him repeatedly why he didnt just stay with her and he never answers me... he is always insulting me and putting me down, and calling me every name in the book specially in front of the kids and his friends at work. He is supposed to be moving out as of march 1st, i know that he has been telling me since 2002 that he doesnt love me never and has and never will and that he wants a divorce... i just found out yesterday that i am 8 weeks pregnant... i was under the impression that i could no longer have children... he swears that i planned it to prevent him from leaving... he now wants me to have an abortion and i dont believe in them...but i have 3 kids and motherhood is hella stressful for me so no i would never get pregnant to hold anyone prisoner... im confused and dont know what to do... any help?
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reader, dcvd75 +, writes (12 February 2010):
dcvd75 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni forgot to add that we have been married for 10yrs and together for 11... it is very hard for me to let go... i know it doesn't justify his actions but explains a little my stupidity
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Stop having sex with this man! He's supposed to move out and wants a divorce, why have sex with him? I know it's too late now, but please just stop from now on. He does not want a relationship with you, and you having sex with him reduces you to nothing but a mattress. For your own self respect: stop having sex with him.
Next, he should still move out. He's not at all good for you, he's rude, poisonous tongue and tries to do all he can to hurt you, incapable of seeing that it is him himself that did the crime. He has to pay child support. So your children should still be able to live a well life. Care for your unborn child like you do for the children you have already, and keep up with the plans of moving him out.
Do not have an abortion because he wants it. If you want it, ok. I am not for abortion either. But I understand that in some circumstances it is for the better. It is up to you though, not him. It takes two to make a baby so you know better than him that it's not something you did to keep him around. He willingly participated.
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