A
female
age
41-50,
*dd
writes:Hi, I'm married for 7 years when I got back with a former acquaintance. We met again when I was feeling bored in my marriage while his relationship with his ex was on the rocks. So an affair was developed, he sent me to law school, so that we can go away after I have my marriage annulled. His girlfriend eventually broke up with him and I thought everything's gonna be alright. We now have a 5year old son and I was already inroduced to his family. Everything was running smoothly, he's nice to me and my son, spends so much on us but we are still discreet since the annulment has not been commneced yet. It was last year when I found out he was into this closet relationship with a woman 10 years his senior. It turned out that this woman was also married when they had an affair 7ears ago. But now that the woman's husband is dead already she is asserting her right as his girlfriend. When i confronted my boyfriend, he told me he wanted to leave the woman many years back but he feels guilty to leave her especially now that she's raising her family of 3 girls alone. When the woman learned about me and my son, she threatened to expose my secret to my husband and to my community. My boyfriend was alarmed especially that i'm already establishing a career in law. I tried to understand him. For a year I kept silent but from time to time we still go out. Then suddenly i found out, he also maintains a relationship with a sick rich younger woman. All of these he maintained under the context of guilt and service. He tells me to be patient, wait and understand. But I feel cheated and misled. I'm so disappointed but I till love him so much. I cut the communication line for almost 6months now but i know he still wants me back. I love him so much, what should I do?
View related questions:
affair, broke up, his ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Legioness  +, writes (12 March 2009):
 To me, it sounds like he's a predator of vaunerable women, these other women - one widow, one ill you- unhappy marriage. Do you see the pattern? He's a player hun, and one of the worse sort. Who's to say he hasn't told the same things as he's been telling you to these other women? Personally I think if you try and persue a relationship with him, even if he tells you otherwise, he'll still be out on the pray for easy targets. All the best x becky x
|
