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writes:Could someone please tell me why my ex boyfriend is so keen on being friends? We broke up one year ago- after I found out he'd been lying to me and seeing other women. He calls several times a day, calls when he has good news. I just don't see the point anymore. He was a horrible boyfriend, what makes him think he'd be a better friend? After one year of trying to be friends, should I just stop taking his calls now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): The next call you receive from him, politely ask him not to phone you again. If he does not adhere to your request, ignore his calls and messages in future.
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reader, Lost_Soul85  +, writes (21 October 2008):
Well from personal experience I give a catagoric YES! My ex was constantly texting me, asking me to be her friend but the way I see it is: if someone has betrayed you and treated you badly, why should you reward their betrayal with friendship? Just my opinion but for me, its a case closed situation when cheating is involved. It only serves to justify what they have done if you remain friends with them, like letting em have there cake and eat it. I heard someone say the other day - "there an ex for a reason" i.e. they probably treated you horribly, or vice versa. Unless it was a amicable breakup and lets face it, when someone cheats, it aint gonna be just cut them out of your life - do you really need a constant reminder of how you let someone abuse your trust and love?
Maybe I'm bitter but I will never be friends with my ex. She cheated on me twice, how she could even look me in the eye let alone think she could be friends with me is arrogant beyond belief!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (21 October 2008):
 In a word YES.
He is trying to worm his way back into your life, surely you can see that?
Its true some guys make a lot better mates than they do B/Fs. But if you had trouble with him before, its very unlikely he is different now. Personally I would cool it down with him, or before you know it, you will have a weak day and he will be there, then it will all start again.
You mark my words.
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