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writes:Isn't life ridiculous..... it makes me fall in love with a man 30 years older than me and then it makes us break up because we cant be together properly....I loved him so much and still do......How I wish we could get back together.....How I wish we could then be together forever....How I wish time would stop.....I know this is probably for the best but I worry 30 years later I'll still find myself wondering how he is....Why is life this cruel and ridiculousHe was the man of my dreams (except for his age I have to admit)Why let my dreams come true then wake me up and jeer at my naivete....How do I get over this heartache?I've been crying for weeks now.... not all the time but at least once everyday......I just miss him so much.......
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reader, chick989  +, writes (9 April 2011):
I'm with a man 30 years my senior, it has been one bumpy ride. I've had constant problems with his children and had to go along with compromises which almost never suited me. we are totally besotted and in love with each other after all this time as it has made us stronger than most relationships. as much as I love him I have taken on such a lot for someone of my age and am under sucneil Is just an old friend, I haven't saw him for nearly a year, was just wondering how he was. didn't know he wasn't allowed friends anymore. no need to be nasty stress. last year we split up - his choice, like you. I felt my s
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (8 April 2011):
It feels painful now, but you'll start to feel so much better soon, and when you find someone of your own age you'll be glad things didn't work out with that middle aged man.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (8 April 2011):
 I think you should commend yourself for having the strength, forsight and maturity to leave this relationship while you are still young. You know you have made the best decision for you in the long term, although it hurts greatly now, and will probly still long for him for a long time. This is because you loved him. But as you know, love isn't all you need for a relationship to work. And you have recognised that he wasn't the perfect man of your dreams, because of his age. You knew in time it would be too difficult, you may well have ended up being his carer in old age. This is all really unfair and such a shame, but sadly, that is how life can be. It's rarely perfect.
I know it hurts right now, but try to remember the reasons why you're not together. He wasn't the right man for you, despite the wonderful times you had. Treasure those times, and maybe, one day, it may be possible to keep in touch with him as friends. For now, think of your future. You are very young and have so much time ahead of you. Be young, go out and have fun, explore life, find out who you are and where you want to go. Hopefully one day you meet the real man of your dreams, who will be right for you in every way, or at least every way that matters to you.
Good luck :)
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