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writes:He's sweet and always really nice, but ever since we got deeper into getting to know each other, he been asking me to give him pictures of me, like "vivid" pictures. I know I would never do it, but I want him to like me still and I know he likes me for me, but he keeps texting me, "Send me pictures of you before you take a shower" or "hey, send me a nude picture of you right now". And I just ignore them and change the subject. He seen me tons of times, but wants "more" from me. Does he like me or just wants the pictures?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been trying to ask my dad to talk to him, but my dad is always busy. Also, I made my friends talk to him, they told him to leave me alone, but he won't listen to them. And I asked my older brothers to talk to him, I don't know what will happen, but I hope he starts to leave me alone...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): OP guys like him don't leave you alone when you ignore them.
It's time you got your father to give him a call. That'll do the trick OP trust me. Guys like this are cowards. He's only creeping on you because he knows by now you're not the kind of person who will react fiercely. If he hears a mans voice on the end of that line telling in no uncertain terms that if he calls one of three things will happen, his parents will be told and shown the messages, he will get a vicious beating or the police will be called.
No need to change your numbers and stuff, in fact don't do that. That's unnecessary and it's kind of cowardly OP. You have to face down people like this not run away from them scared. This guy needs to know there are consequences to this kind of thing OP or the next girl might not be as strong willed as you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI left him alone, but he WON'T leave me alone. I'm changing my number and everything. Thanks guys! This is so helpful and I'm seeing the REAL him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): yes, what others said....DONT send him anything of the sort. He is doing exactly what you think- Softening you up with pretty words to get you to compromise your morals. As one poster said, he does sound like a crazy creep, the stalking kind.
I would not trust this man one minute more. Please play this smart and dont fall into his trap. Dont give out any more personal information about yourself (if you have already). If you do decide to play this smart and get rid of him once and for all, do it in a way where you are safe. Dont breath a word to him, but just change your phone number, email, etc.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (14 June 2011):
 have you told him 'no'? he needs to hear it, if after that he still carries on asking then i would definitely take that to mean he has no real respect for you. don't give in to his demands, nude pictures can be looked at not only by his friends but if he ever turns malicious and posts them online they will be there FOREVER
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): The guy is full on crazy creep, listen to the stuff he's saying. Sounds like a weird stalker to me.
OP don't ignore this, this guy is testing you to see how far he can get, if he doesn't get a "piss off with this kind of thing" soon, he's just going to keep going and see how far he can get with you.
Not doing anything about it by not saying something about it is not going to make it stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys! Really, we're aren't really in a relationship and he's saying things already like, "Oh, you're my life", "I love you" And things are just coming out of his mouth and I guess he's just trying to soften me up to send him pictures. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): He's a creep OP, he's only pretending to be nice the truth is he's a full on creep that wants nude pictures so he can show his friends and post them on the internet.
Next time don't be afraid to call him out on that, tell him he's being a major creep and not to ask you again because you're never going to give them to him.
OP ignoring that is giving him the impression he can keep trying to get them, you have tell him in no uncertain terms to fuck off about that and if he keeps asking then you won't talk to him again.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (14 June 2011):
Are you crazy? this guy isn't even your boyfriend. If you send him pictures, sooner or later, they will be spread around all his mates, and put on the internet.
Only ever give pictures to someone you are in a very commited relationship with. Remember that a photo will last forever, so when you take one you risk it being on the internet for the rest of your life.
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